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Does satisfaction stop growth?
Posted by: | CommentsThe other day on Twitter, some dude sent this tweet out: Are you satisfied with your life? Satisfaction stops growth.
It made me stop and think…does satisfaction stop growth?
I think that feeling satisfied with your life is a good thing. It allows you to be in a place of appreciation for what you have and it gets those juicy, good feelings flowing. I think that satisfaction leads more peace and happiness.
What do you think?
In my experience; being un-satisfied sucks and leads to lots of frustration, stress, and un-happiness. I went through a big part of my life feeling un-satisfied. My job was never good enough, my relationships weren’t making me happy, and I was never satisfied by what I accomplished. I was always reaching for something more, or different, thinking that if I just got that “thing’ I would be happy.
You know what? I was rarely happy! I was never satisfied and nothing was ever enough. I was always chasing after something more. It was exhausting!
This all shifted when I learned how to appreciate the things I had in my life, and recognize all of my accomplishments. Then I was able to be satisfied with what I had created for myself. Being satisfied felt good. It meant I could sit back and relax and enjoy my life. I was much happier and more peaceful.
Did being satisfied with my life make me sit stagnant? Hell no! It rocketed me forward.
Being happy, and more relaxed allowed me to focus on the thing things that felt good to me. Rather than spending my time focused on my sucky job and how dissatisfied with I was, I enjoyed my life and tried new things that interested me. I had more energy to socialize and have fun. I had more confidence in my ability to manifest what I wanted. Life got really juicy and fun.
What’s your experience with this? Do you think that being satisfied with your life helps or hinders your growth?
Share your perspective in the comments down below
Why are we all so clueless when it comes to our own happiness?
Posted by: | CommentsBack in the day I was miserable in my job, and my “exciting, fabulous life” was completely unsatisfying. I was having a major identity crisis and had no idea who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do with my life.
On the surface it looked like I had it all. I had a job that paid well that I had lots of opportunities at. I had a nice apartment in the cool part of town. I was “somebody” in my social scene and I got VIP treatment at all the nightclubs and restaurants that I went to. I had a large circle of friends and there was always something to do.
It all felt so meaningless to me. I knew that there was something more out there for me, but I had no idea what it was. I felt unsatisfied, and this was a problem. It made me cranky, frustrated, and I liked to blame everyone else, especially at work, for my dissatisfaction. I was stressed out most of the time and I got sick a lot.
I had no idea what I wanted, I just knew that what I was living was not it.
How is it possible that I had no clue about what I wanted?
How could I not know what would bring satisfaction and meaning to my life?
I know that I’m not unique in having this problem. I hear similar stories from clients all the time.
I feel that I am meant for something more, but I am not sure what that is.
I am not sure what I want but I know that this is not “it”.
I want my life and work to be more meaningful, but I have no idea what that looks like.
How can everyone be so clueless around what would make them happy?
I think it all boils down to this:
We are not taught how to determine what would feel meaningful and make us happy.
We are actually taught the opposite.
We are taught how to; behave, do as we’re told, follow the rules, and like what we’re given.
And if you are like me, you spent a lot of time resisting this, but ultimately you learned that it was easier to play along and fit in.
You learn how to tune out the part of you that says “but I want this” and you half-heartedly embrace what you’re supposed to want.
BUT, there is always a part of you that is crying out for something more. Unfortunately, you get really good at ignoring it because it is too painful to hear.
The end result is that you hit your thirties and start to wonder “Is this it?” and a mid-life crisis is waiting for you right around the bend.
So….. what do you do?
How do you learn to tune into what really is meaningful to YOU and will make YOU happy?
Here are a few tips to get you started.
Start listening to the part of you that wants more from life. Give it permission to come forward and be heard.
Notice the parts of your life that feel bad to you. Get specific around what does not work for you. Then ask yourself what you would want instead.
Commit to looking for things that feel good and make you happy. Embrace them even if they’re unconventional and far from the norm.
Try these tips out and let me know what you discover in the comments below.
If you decide that you are tired of struggling with this on your own, send me an email by clicking here, to discuss how we can work together to get you clear on exactly what will bring more meaning and satisfaction to your life.
I think we have it backwards…..
Posted by: | CommentsWhat if creating your kick-ass dream life is more about how you want to feel in your life than the things that you want to have?
When I talk to people about their kick-ass dream life, they tend to go right into describing what it will look like to them and all the things that are in it. They tell me about the cool career that they will have, and the awesome house and all the things that they will do. Once they have all these things THEN their life will feel totally kick-ass!
I think that this approach is backwards. It is extremely limiting and gives way too much power to the material things in your life.
If you are honest with yourself, the reason why you want these things; be it a job, house, or car, is because you think that you will feel a certain way once you have it.
And it might be true that all those things will make your life kick-ass, but I imagine that there are all kinds of things yet to be discovered that would work for you too.
What if you started off with being really clear on how you want to feel in your life, and create from there?
If you commit to looking for the things in your life that feel really good to you, then you can more easily build your kick-ass life around you.
I find that when you are tapped into how you want to feel, and you look for the things that allow you to feel that way, the possibilities expand and it becomes much easier to start living your kick-ass life right now.
What does your kick-ass dream life feel like to you?
How to come into alignment with your kick-ass dream.
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In my last post I left you pondering the question: “How do I get into alignment with my big dream?”
I will share one way with you now.
Focus on the “What” and the “Why” of your dream and forget about the “How” for now.
I know that this may sound like crazy talk, but I assure you that I have not gone around the bend with this one.
Let me break it down for you.
Most people spend less than a minute focusing on what their kick-ass dream is going to feel like once they are living it, before they immediately shift into “How am I going to make this happen” mode.
In most cases, you do not have a clear plan around “HOW” you are going to go about making your dream happen, so it creates a bit of resistance inside of you.
This resistance shows up as confusion, frustration, self-doubt, and overwhelm. (I am sure you can come up with a few feelings of your own here.) Once you are in the bad feeling place you are not in alignment with your dream, and it makes it very difficult for you to manifest it.
At this point, if you were like me, you would find yourself giving up and moving onto something else, or getting resentful and pulling up one of your old scapegoat stories around why you can’t have this dream or why you do not deserve it.
Now let’s look at this process from another perspective.
What if you spent a majority of your time focusing on the “What” and the “Why” of your kick-ass dream?
The “What” being the thing you want to manifest, and the “Why” being the reason you are doing it.
By spending your time focusing on these things, you are tapping into the good feelings that living your dream will bring you. The more you explore how it is going to feel to be living your dream, and what it is going to look like, the more you are expanding those juicy good feelings . By focusing on the juicy good feelings, you are bringing yourself into alignment with your dream.
A really cool thing happens when you do this: The details of “How” to create your dream begin to unfold before you. By focusing on the “What” and “Why” you have created the perfect space for the “How” to show up.
So, tell me, WHAT is your kick-ass dream and WHY do you want it?
Soon I will share with you the potential pitfalls to watch out for when doing this.
A New Way to Approach Transforming your Life
Posted by: | CommentsHave you ever had a big dream that you were really excited about, but you ended up abandoning it because you could not figure out HOW to make it happen?
Back in the day, this happen to me all the time. I would end up totally frustrated and stressed out and then decide that I really did not want it anyway (which was a bunch of crap).
Then I learned a new way of approaching things that totally shifted everything for me.
I learned how to come into alignment with the energy of my dream before I take action. You do this by feeling good first, then taking action from that good feeling place.
Now you may be asking: “How could that possibly work?”
It is simple really.
Being in alignment literally means: to line up with.
When you are in alignment with something the way is open and your path becomes clear, and as a result, the details around “how” to bring it into being become clear.
I imagine that this big dream of yours feels really good to you. In order to be in alignment with your dream, you need to feel good too.
As you come into alignment with your dream you begin to get all kinds of inspired action ideas. Suddenly you know exactly what to do. Perhaps you are inspired to email someone, or take a walk where you run into just the right person, or you suddenly see an ad for just what you need.
Think about it for a minute. On days that you are feeling good and in the flow, don’t things seem to easily unfold for you?
Those days that you are feeling bad and cranky, nothing seems to be going your way.
When you are feeling good, you are in alignment.
When you are feeling bad, you aren’t.
Get in alignment and your path becomes clear!
The next question is: “How do I get into alignment with my big dream?”
I will cover that next time.
