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Ten Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life
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1. Commit to looking for the things that make you happy. Start making a daily kick-ass list. Write down everything that’s kick-ass and that you want more of.
2. Make your relationship with yourself and feeling good the most important thing. Take full responsibility for your own happiness and outcomes.
3. Spend time everyday focusing on what you want in your life. Picture yourself having it without worrying about how it’s going to get there. If you want more money- claim it! Don’t worry about HOW it’s going to show up, just picture yourself having it in your bank account…or under your mattress…. and imagine all the fun stuff you’ll do with it.
2. Create space to sit quietly and connect to your inner-freak every day. Listen to what it tells you. It knows the way to all that is juicy and fun.
3. Shake things up a bit on a regular basis to put yourself outside of your regular perspective. This will keep you from getting stuck in a rut. (I decided to go for my dream of being a Life Coach when I was at Burning Man.)
4. Tap into your curiosity and sense of wonder. Ask questions, dig deep, and let yourself be surprised.
5. Play more! Have fun! This will help you tap into the energy of your kick-ass life and attract more of it to you.
6. Explore all the things that interest you and try it on for size. Conduct your very own Life Experiments.
7. Don’t be a pussy!! Be bold and daring….take risks make up your own rules and do your own thing.
8. Stop worrying about offending people!! Not everyone is going to like you no matter what! What is most important is that YOU like you. Be true to yourself.
9. Give yourself permission to do all the things that you think you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do, but you really-really want to. Have no regrets!
10. Surround yourself with other kick-ass people who are doing cool things with their lives. Ditch the negative nancys, complainers, whiners, and the dream smashers.
Whats your favorite?
The world needs you to be your freaky self!
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you feel about flying your freak flag high and proud and sharing your juicy goodness with us?
Being self-expressed in this way totally rocks and it’s the fastest way to living a Kick-Ass Life!
You DO know that you have something special to share that is unique to you, right?
There many be thousands of coaches, health counselors and healers out there, but you have your own special twist to put on it that makes what you have to offer incredibly valuable to the right people. The thing is – they need to be able to find you.
Right now there are people who are looking for what you have to offer. They are waiting for you to unfurl your freak flag so they can find you.
When you fly your freak flag and let people see the real you, you stand out and shine. People remember you and you’ll naturally attract more of the people who want what you have going on. Besides, it feels kick-ass to be doing your thing -your way- and working with the people that you want to work with.
Trust me—the world wants what you have to offer! We are dying for you to fly your freak flag and share your juicy goodness with us. But, in order to do this, you need to know who you are and what your freak flag looks like!
Have you’ve lost sight of this?
Did you forgot what makes you so freaking awesome while you were out there trying to cram yourself into a pre-packaged life? No need to beat yourself up over it, we can fix it.
Tuning In
Everything you need to know about flying your freak flag and what you need to stand out and shine is right there inside of you. All you need to do is learn how to tune into it so you can bring it out for the world to see.
Tuning in takes a bit of focused effort, self-awareness, and some space to try things on for size to see what works. You’ll want to get down and dirty with your bad-ass self so you can reconnect with who you are at your core essence.
You’ll need some tools to help you identify what sets you apart and makes you special and unique and what you need to make your life & biz totally Kick-Ass!
You do know that how you show up in your life is the same way you show up in your biz…right?
I have just the thing if you want some help with this- The Discovering Kick-Ass Guide!
This guidebook is going to help you get crystal clear about what YOUR freak flag looks like and what you need to live a kick-ass life.
The Discovering Kick-Ass Guide will help you to…
- reconnect with who you are
- uncover your unique gifts and talents
- clearly layout what your next moves will be
- start doing more of the things you want to do
- embrace the things that set you apart and make you shine
A little effort goes a long way when doing this work! As you begin to discover what your special brand of juicy goodness looks like, you will naturally begin to attract more opportunities to share it with the world. Your freak flag will become a bright beacon that will light the way for your right people to find you so they can snatch up what you have to offer.
Your life will get Kick-Ass very fast!
You can get your copy of the Discovering Kick-Ass Guidebook here –http://defythebox.com/kickassguide/
Unfurl that freak flag!!!
Let’s talk about flying your freak flag
Posted by: | CommentsLet’s talk about flying your freak flag; what it is and what it’s not.
Flying your freak flag is fully embodying who you are here to be, without apologies. You are freely self-expressed and not afraid to flaunt the things that make you different.
I want to be clear -it’s not just about what you look like. It is about how you show up in the world. It’s all in your attitude!
People automatically assume I’m suggesting they get a big tattoo, dye their hair blue and wear latex to work, but that’s not where I’m going with this. Don’t get me wrong, if doing those things make you feel like a bad-ass, go for it, but it doesn’t have to be anything that drastic!
Flying your freak flag means that you feel good about who you are and don’t feel the need to hide. Rock out your own funky style and don’t be afraid to be different. Bust-a-move or sing along in the super market when you hear a song you like. Talk about your class in Japanese rope bondage, and your thoughts on spirituality. Let people see who you are and what you’re all about.
Flying your freak flag is not about rebellion or saying “Fuck You” to anyone. It is about feeling confidant and doing your thing. Take a stand for the things you’re interested in and want in your life, and allow other people to do the same.
Self acceptance is key! Know who you are, feel good about it, and embrace it. It’s all good! Every weird, quirky thing about you is just as it’s supposed to be.
Why is flying your freak flag important?
It allows you to fulfill your life’s purpose! Your purpose is to be 100% you in your full freaky glory and that is exactly what you’re doing when you’re flying your freak flag.
It also feels freaking awesome!! It’s so much easier to be who you are than it is to pretend and hide. You get to do the things that you’re interested in and meaningful to you. Life is way more fun! A cool side effect of flying your freak flag is that you encourage other people to do it too. It makes it so much easier to find the people and opportunities that you’re looking for.
The best reason for doing it- It will make your life Kick-Ass!
What are You Talking Yourself Out Of?
Posted by: | CommentsI work with all kinds of people who are tired of the status quo and want help breaking free from their pre-package lives. They come to me because they feel stuck in limbo and can’t figure out what will make their life feel more fulfilling, meaningful and fun. They want some clarity and a plan to shift things.
This might surprise you, but in most cases they actually already know what it is that will make their life more fulfilling, meaningful and fun, but they talked themselves out of it. Their heart has clearly showed them what they are passionate about and their head convinced them that they shouldn’t waste their time pursuing it.
Do you ever find yourself letting your head talk your heart out of going after what you’re passionate about?
The great thing is that with a bit of coaching it’s easy to break free of the pre-packaged beliefs that fill your head and cause you to think that you shouldn’t follow your heart and do what interests you.
For example, the 30 something year old dude who was struggling to maintain his sanity in the secure, practical management job that he had. He felt trapped and needed help figuring out how to shift things so his life felt better. After a few coaching sessions it was obvious that what he was really passionate about was being a musician, but he kept convincing himself that this was not a practical idea. He had bought in the pre-packaged belief that you can’t make money as a musician and you needed a real job in order to be a successful, responsible adult.
This is why he felt so trapped. His head was talking himself out of what his heart was crying out for and it was making him totally depressed. I gave him the assignment to think of all the possible ways that he could make money as a musician, and to open up to the possibility. Next thing you know he had a list of options and new opportunities, and created a plan. Four months into his plan he was supporting himself as a musician, and now has more opportunities than he knows what to do with. His life is Kick-Ass!
I also worked with a woman who was turning 40 and wanted help creating the next phase of her life. For the past 20 years she had been focused on being responsible and was burnt out. She felt that now was the time to create space to honor her creativity more. She felt limited in her options, and wanted help figuring out what this could look like for her. Once we started working together it became clear that what she really wanted was to write and to make the space in her life to do that, but she kept talking herself out of going for it because she didn’t think that was practical. Once we cleared out the pre-packaged beliefs that convinced her that she shouldn’t pursue this passion, and started looking at all the ways it could work, all kinds of possible scenarios started to appear. As her excitement about leaving her job to pursue her passion grew, the people around her got excited too. Everything began to fall into place and she now is set herself up to be able to do what interests her and still take care of her responsibilities. Her Kick-Ass Life is unfolding before her as we speak.
Next time you’re feeling unsatisfied and trapped, take some time to check in and see what your heart wants you to do. Pay attention to the pre-packaged beliefs that begin to fill your head and tell you all the reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Play in the realm of possibilities and start asking “How could this work? “
Acceptance and Allowing
Posted by: | CommentsI’m going to wrap up Focus on Freedom month by talking about acceptance and allowing. If you make these two practices a way of life, you will have the freedom to be YOU, and you empower the people around you to do the same.
Acceptance means seeing yourself in your full freaky glory and being OK with it.
It’s accepting everything about yourself, even if you consider it to be a flaw, and embracing who you are rather than feeling like there is something wrong with you or you need to be different in order to measure up or make other people happy.
Acceptance means loving yourself and giving yourself the freedom to be YOU.
Allowing is what happens when you give yourself permission to be yourself, and you trust your instincts and intuition and allow yourself make the choices that you need to make too be happy.
This all applies to the way that you regard other people as well.
When you practice acceptance, you stay present and see who someone is, and you accept who they are. You don’t make them wrong or think you know what they should do.
You ALLOW them to be exactly who they are without trying to change them. You respect their choices and know that they know what is best for their life, just like you know for yours.
Allowing others to be who they are truly frees you up & releases everyone from expectations. It puts you in a place of choice rather than resistance. You are free to make your own choices pertaining to what you need to thrive and so are they.
Too often we project our expectations and fantasy’s onto other people and we don’t give them the freedom to be who they are. We don’t really see them. We create an image in our heads around who they’re supposed to be and are angry & disappointed when they don’t live up to our expectations. We resist the reality of who they are and we expect them to change to fit into our idea of who they should be.
Can you think of a time that someone did that to you?
How did it feel?
Being in a state of resistance feels bad to everyone involved and wastes a lot of energy. You are pushing against what is, and whenever you expect someone else, or something else, to change to suit you, you’re engaging in a losing battle.
This applies to situations too; like a job. It’s common to have expectations around how your boss and co-workers should act, or what your job is going to be like, and when things don’t live up to these ideas you make them wrong and engage in a lot of resistance. You think things should be different and you spend a lot of time complaining, being miserable and thinking things need to change. You’d be better served by accepting how things are and allowing it to be that way, then making the choice to stay there or not.
What it all comes back to the idea that true freedom lies in the ability to make choices and to be yourself. The more that you accept yourself and embrace all of who you are, the easier it will be for you to live a life full of meaning, happiness and satisfaction.
Doesn’t that sound very Kick-Ass?
There is an awesome 3 book set called The Four Agreements Toltec Wisdom Collection by Don Miguel Ruiz that really helped me understand these concepts and apply them to my life. I highly recommend reading it!
