Some People Will Ditch You
ByAre you afraid people won’t like you if you let the real you show through and you speak your truth?
This is a common fear for my clients. They are afraid that people will judge them or ditch them if they start being authentic and stop playing the game of trying to be what people expect them to be. They are afraid that as they grow and evolve, they will lose their friends.
You know what? It’s true!
Some people will ditch you and judge you when you stop playing the game and start following your heart and your truth. They will get pissed off that you’re not doing what they want you to do! They will tell you that your dreams are crazy and list 100 different reasons why they won’t work. They might stop being your friend and talk shit about you behind your back.
I want you to know that this behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
BUT it is still hard to take when someone you’ve know for a long time rejects you because your following your heart and speaking your truth; especially if it is family.
What helps me get through is the knowledge that being myself and speaking my truth will ultimately lead me to the people and the life that I want to live. The more authentic I am, the better life feels and the more meaningful people and opportunities show up for me.
When you begin to fully love and accept all parts of yourself-especially the weird ones-you become a beacon for all the people and opportunities that will make your life feel totally kick-ass! For every person who rejects you, five new awesome people will show up.
Besides – You are not meant to hide who you are! You are meant to be 100% you-in your full freaky glory. You are a freak of nature! There is no-one else like you. You have unique gifts and talents that are specific to you that the world needs.
The best way for you to bring these gifts forward is to follow your heart, live authentically, and speak your truth. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing it!
What helps you deal with the fall out of people dropping off as you step more fully into your freaky self?
5 Comments
June 29th, 2011 at 3:52 pm
Great Post Leah!
I love this topic…it has been so real in my world and still is at times~ For me, when I can feel the kick-ass freedom and power that comes with BE-ing my truth, me to the core with no apologies, that’s the juice/prize for me- that feeling that I’ve just honored me, held tight to the commitment I have for me and my kick ass life! I also will keep my eye on the prize of the wonderment of who will be ridin’ my bus in the seat that was just vacated!
it’s a great concept and it keeps it real for me!
b
June 29th, 2011 at 4:06 pm
This is absolutely true!!! Consider the ditches to be a sloughing off of some of what is holding you back from your Kick-Ass dream life! They are happy with their decisions, we need to be happy with how we live our lives. It is OK for people to go their separate ways, especially when values differ. Let them go with love – at some point in the past they contributed to our lives, and we learned from them. Even if it was to learn that we didn’t want to be like them. Still a valuable lesson. Figure what you learned from them, meditate on your gratitude, and let them go.
I read somewhere, from some social study, that we as humans have the social capacity to have a meaningful relationship with about 150 other people at one time. Make room for the people in your social circle that will help you grow, and become more of who you really want to be. They are out there and want to become part of your life experience, even if you don’t know each other yet!
June 30th, 2011 at 9:23 am
Beth- you are a wonderful example of someone who is committed to being 100% YOU with no apologies.
June 30th, 2011 at 9:24 am
Thanks for sharing your wisdom Trina!
September 5th, 2011 at 10:13 am
Its a wonderful topic..
I learnt this lesson of life recently.Its wonderful for being authentic,if i am true and other person could not accept it,its better to let them go, we really dont lose anything but get
out of trap which is obstacle to grow in our life