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The Price of Impatience
Posted by: | CommentsI thought it was a good idea at the time.
I was so excited to make things happen and create some big changes so that I could make a giant leap forward and step more firmly into my kick-ass dream life.
What I didn’t consider was that the three programs I signed up for to help me do just that were all going on at the same time.
I realized that I had made myself crazy busy and I started to spiral into overwhelm.
I have put myself into full time SUMMER SCHOOL!
What was I thinking?
I can tell you what I was thinking: I want my kick-ass dream life to show up RIGHT NOW !
I was getting impatient and feeling like things were not happening fast enough.
How many of you can relate to that ?
So, I decided to take some action that I felt would rocket me forward.
The problem is that I didn’t take the time to create a structure to support me in doing this. I did not step back and imagine what it would be like to be in these programs, and the time commitment and the workload. I didn’t focus on the outcome that I was looking for and create space for it to happen. I didn’t clear away the things in my life that were not in alignment with my stepping up in this big new way.
I didn’t set myself up for success in anyway and now I am paying the price.
Overwhelm!
Funny, Abraham-Hicks sent out a quote the other day that fits perfectly.
“Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You’re just not ready to receive it right now.”
These words ring true for me. I was not ready to receive what I had asked for.
I ask myself: “What needs to be released, or brought in to support you in stepping into your dream?”
One thing that needs to be brought in is a newly defined commitment to do this work, and to make it my #1 priority.
The next thing I did was re-evaluate how I was spending my time and decide if there were any things that are not serving me. There are a few groups and projects that I have decided to let go of because they are not really going anywhere. I also had to redefine my relationship with Plants vs. Zombies, (Sorry guys…I will only be coming around every now and then.) and my TV.
I did make the commitment to keep some space for fun, and not to burn myself out working 12 hour days. That just does not feel good and is so NOT part of my kick-ass dream life!
So we will see what happens.
The Overwhelm has left the building and I am beginning to feel the juicy goodness of everything expanding around me.
Oh yeah… that feels nice!
How to come into alignment with your kick-ass dream.
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In my last post I left you pondering the question: “How do I get into alignment with my big dream?”
I will share one way with you now.
Focus on the “What” and the “Why” of your dream and forget about the “How” for now.
I know that this may sound like crazy talk, but I assure you that I have not gone around the bend with this one.
Let me break it down for you.
Most people spend less than a minute focusing on what their kick-ass dream is going to feel like once they are living it, before they immediately shift into “How am I going to make this happen” mode.
In most cases, you do not have a clear plan around “HOW” you are going to go about making your dream happen, so it creates a bit of resistance inside of you.
This resistance shows up as confusion, frustration, self-doubt, and overwhelm. (I am sure you can come up with a few feelings of your own here.) Once you are in the bad feeling place you are not in alignment with your dream, and it makes it very difficult for you to manifest it.
At this point, if you were like me, you would find yourself giving up and moving onto something else, or getting resentful and pulling up one of your old scapegoat stories around why you can’t have this dream or why you do not deserve it.
Now let’s look at this process from another perspective.
What if you spent a majority of your time focusing on the “What” and the “Why” of your kick-ass dream?
The “What” being the thing you want to manifest, and the “Why” being the reason you are doing it.
By spending your time focusing on these things, you are tapping into the good feelings that living your dream will bring you. The more you explore how it is going to feel to be living your dream, and what it is going to look like, the more you are expanding those juicy good feelings . By focusing on the juicy good feelings, you are bringing yourself into alignment with your dream.
A really cool thing happens when you do this: The details of “How” to create your dream begin to unfold before you. By focusing on the “What” and “Why” you have created the perfect space for the “How” to show up.
So, tell me, WHAT is your kick-ass dream and WHY do you want it?
Soon I will share with you the potential pitfalls to watch out for when doing this.
Making Your Own Rules (my first video blog!)
Posted by: | CommentsToday I want to continue the conversation about rules.
I decided that I would play around with my IMovie software and make a video for you.
This is what I came up with. I hope that you enjoy it.
( The date for the class mentioned in this video has been changed to March 4th at 12:30-1:30 PM EST get more info. about it here )
Feeling Good Is Where It’s At.
Posted by: | CommentsSomething to think about from Abraham-Hicks:
Hard work is not the path to Well- Being. Feeling good is the path to Well-Being. You don’t create through action; you create through vibration. And then, your vibration calls action from you.
— Abraham
(Excerpted from the workshop in Washington, DC on Saturday, May 7th, 2005 #273)
Abraham-Hicks is my favorite law of attraction source and authority. Check out these books if you like.
To Offend or Not Offend, That is the Question
Posted by: | CommentsThe past few days I have been caught up in an ongoing mental swirl around whether or not I should tone down my message and the way I deliver it.
Why was I considering this?
In order to appeal to a broader audience.
In order to be more accessible.
In order not to offend people.
I was offered the opportunity to host Defy the Box Radio to a much larger audience than I am now. A well established website for women contacted me and said they were interested in my edgy perspective and the Defy the Box message was appealing to them. When I checked out the site and the other shows they offered I liked what I saw, but thought that they might be a bit too ‘vanillia’ for me. I suggested that they check out the past episodes of my show to see if they thought I would be a good fit. When we spoke again I was told that they liked my message and would love to have me, but I would need to tone things down a bit so that I do not offend anyone on the site.
MMMMM…….tone down my message, huh?
My first reaction was NO WAY, but then I started questioning myself.
I do want to expand my audience, and I am doing my best to expand my business.
Am I missing out on an opportunity by saying no?? Am I being a responsible business owner ?
Just thinking about toning myself down makes me feel restricted and unsettled. It makes me doubt myself.
This is not the way I want to feel.
When it comes right down to it, I do not like the idea of restricting myself in any way. The idea of toning down my message and my delivery of it is not appealing at all.
What I am really being asked to do is to adjust my behavior so that I ‘fit in’ to a particular box.
And I have to acknowledge that I was almost buying into the story that says you need to tone yourself down in order to appeal to a large audience, and offending people is bad. I was starting to flip – flop and was beginning to think that maybe it was a good idea to tone things down a bit so that I would be more accessible to the mainstream.
Then I called my friend Kelle and had a great conversation about speaking in your authentic voice, and who I really wanted to reach out to, and was I actually going to miss out on an opportunity here? Kelle is really good at helping me stay on track, and she reminded me that if you are not offending someone…you are not doing your job right. Thanks Kelle!
I mean, look at Howard Stern. Many people find him obnoxious and offensive but they still listen. He has a strong voice and perspective and is not afraid to stand out. His audience loves him.
When it comes right down to it, my ‘toning it down’ would not be in alignment with the message of Defy the Box.
What kind of example would I be if I was not letting my freak flag fly high and proud?
The reality is that I am a rabble rouser.
I am intentionally trying to stir things up, and make people question the ideas and beliefs that they have been living by.
That can be very offensive to many people.
It makes them uncomfortable. In response to the discomfort, they make me, or my message, wrong rather than looking inside themselves to discover the real reason they are feeling uncomfortable. ( It’s not really about me at all.)
It’s OK…I do my best not to take this personally. 
So…do I tone things down???
NO WAY!
Wheww….that feels so much better.
