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Amplifying, Basking, and Bouncing Around
Posted by: | CommentsHey there freaky people!
I have been deep in creative space this week with my head down working on a new project that I will be rolling out in September. My days have been flying by and my cats are feeling a bit neglected-they are so spoiled by my working at home and I haven’t been indulging them in all the belly rubs and play sessions that I ussually do- but it’s all good!
All I can say is that this new offering is going to ROCK!
I’m feeling really great about the way it’s all coming together. It feels right and my energy has been consistently expanding as I get farther into it-which is an awesome sign that I’m onto something big. I know that it’s going to help lots of non-conforming souls figure out what will make their lives Kick-Ass, and that’s all I’m going to say about it right now.
I do have it together enough to know that today is Friday, and that means it is time to play Amplification Friday!
Join me in taking a few minutes to think about all the things that you’re appreciating from your week and to bask in the juicy good feeling of it. Then take a minute to share about it down in the comments.
I’m appreciating the amazing weather that we have been having here in Boston this week. The days have been so sunny and warm and the nights are perfect for sleeping. Working from my back deck rocks!
I appreciate my creativity flowing through me and out into the world.
I’m appreciating all the amazing fun people in my life. I’m lucky to have a wide variety of friends who are all so different, and bring something unique to my life. This week I’ve had the pleasure of spending time with so many of them! It fills my heart and feeds my soul.
I appreciate the abundance and prosperity in my life. The Universe does an amazing job at providing me with exactly what I need. I appreciate myself for knowing what I’m worth and investing in my continued expansion.
Your turn! What are appreciating in your life this week?
This Week I’m Appreciating…..
Posted by: | CommentsA couple of weeks ago I moved a fun game I created called Amplification Friday from my FaceBook Fan Page over here to my blog.
Rather than go through a big detailed description about what Amplification Friday is every time Friday comes around, I’ve decided to use this space to amplify the energy of what I’m appreciating in my life in the hopes that you will join me and do the same!
This week I’m appreciating the deep relaxation that I was able to enjoy over the weekend. It’s awesome to be surrounded by nature, with nothing much to do, sitting on a rocking chair on Kim & Jer’s front porch reading a book and hanging out with my sweetie. I totally enjoyed going to bed early and sleeping in late. Grilling steaks, eating locally raised sausage, homemade waffles, and the cupcake comparisons that we did. It was fun to play with Kim & Jer’s son Alerick in the front yard and going to see fireworks on the 4th of July. The warm clean air felt wonderful on my skin and everything was so green and lush! It smelled so good……just like I imagine the color green would smell.
I’m also appreciating my sexy sexy iphone. It lets me roam far an wide and still be tapped into my coaching biz when I feel like checking in. I can easily stay in touch with people and amuse myself playing Pocket God and Bejeweled. The camera and video makes it so easy to take pictures and document where I’ve been. I’m now a picture taking fool! Being able to go online and find out the closest piercing place comes in handy too! I feel like it greatly adds to my freedom and my Kick-Ass Life.
I appreciate my freedom! My life is custom designed to fit me perfectly and I’m thankful for it everyday. I get to do all the stuff I love while surround by some totally amazing cool people. My clients are truly inspirational. They are so ready and willing to be vulnerable and open up and expand into their brilliance. I am constantly in awe of the growth and expansion that I witness. I’m thrilled to be able to be a mirror for them as they uncover the self-defeating stories and limiting beliefs that are holding them back. The most awesome part is that this is the perfect enviornment for me to use my superpowers to help them identify those stories and beliefs. It’s all so perfect!
Here are some fireworks from the 4th shared via my sexy sexy iphone-
Your turn! What are you appreciating from your week?
An Unconventional Way to Create Change
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you go about creating change in your life?
I think the most common approach is identifying what you think is “wrong” with your life, and then setting up a plan to “fix” it. You spend your time and energy trying to stop doing something.
For example, if you wanted to lose weight, you may decide to stop eating junk food, and to stop spending your time sitting on the couch watching TV.
The flaw that I see in this approach is that you are focusing your attention on what you can’t have.
I don’t know about you, but as soon as I decide I am not going to have something anymore, the more I start thinking about it and wanting it. It becomes all about denying myself something and my having the discipline not to do it, which does not usually work so well for me.
This approach is also built on the premise that there is something “wrong’ with you that you need to “fix”.
Energetically this is moving you in the wrong direction. The more you focus on what is “wrong” and needs to be “fixed”, the more of that you will get.
Let’s say you decide not to eat junk food, but then that is all you can think about, and you have a chip or two, and then you feel bad for eating the chips, which makes you want to eat more chips. The next thing you know you are feeling bad about yourself for not being able to stick to your plan and you start tuning out the bad feelings by watching TV.
Do you see where I am going with this?
I have another idea for you to try.
What if rather than looking at the stuff that you want to fix and change in your life, you decided to focus on what you want more of in your life ?
What if you focus on how you might add stuff into your day that feels good, rather than being focused on stopping a behavior, or taking something away?
What would that look like for you?
Let’s go back to the losing weight example. In order for this approach to work, you need to connect to the reason why you are doing something.
Let’s say that the reason that you want to lose weight is to feel healthier and more energetic. How could you add things into your day that would allow you to feel healthier and more energetic?
Perhaps you might add more greens into your diet every day, and you decide that going for a walk increases your energy so you add that into your day too.
Then you discover that getting 8 hours of sleep a night really feels good and increases your energy so you do that too.
Adding the greens into your diet increases your bodies desire for more good food, and going for a walk and getting more sleeps leaves you energized and feeling like doing more stuff. Next thing you know, you don’t crave junk food and sitting on the couch is not so appealing.
As you begin to add these things into your day, and you feel good about them, it empowers you to do more stuff that feels good. It is a much gentler way to treat yourself and it will bring you the results that you are looking for much faster.
It all comes down to this: What you focus on expands into your reality. When you focus on what is wrong, and needs to be fixed, you get more of that. When you focus on what you want more of, and what feels good and works for you , you get more of that.
What would you rather have more of?
try it out and let me know what happens!
If you want to play with this idea further, join in and play Amplification Friday with us every Friday on the Defy the Box Fan page on Facebook.
Laying the Ground Work for the New Year part 2
Posted by: | CommentsHow was the eggnog? ( Or tequila depending on how you roll).
Are you back all refreshed and ready to move on to the next step?
Here we go……
Why do I want what I want?
The next step is to ask yourself what success looks like for you in the New Year
in all the areas of your life. What do you want to see happen and
why do you want it (What will you get out of it?)
For example:
(What) I want to double my income. (Why) I will feel a great sense of
freedom as I pay extra on my mortgage and quickly build more equity in my home.
(What)I want exercise to be a regular and fun part of my life. (Why) I want
to feel flexible and energetic and able to do all the physical activity that
I desire as I get older.
Doing this process connects you with the end result that you are looking for,
and that is what it is really all about. We do everything that we do because we
are looking for a specific outcome. This can be a conscious or unconscious process.
The more conscious you make it; the more likely you are to get what you want.
The clearer you are on what the end result you are looking for it, the easier
it will be to bring it into your life.
For example, let’s say that you want more money.
Why do you want more money?
“So I can easily pay my bills.”
Well, if easily paying you bills is the desired outcome there are many ways to go
about it…some might not even involve making more money.Maybe you can reduce your
bills, or go to a cheaper bar where drinks are not $12 a pop, or find a
sugar daddy…or mama…depending on your preference. So, my point is that if what
you really want is to easily pay all your bills then focus your attention on that.
Making more money is just one solution to that problem.
Create your Vision
The final step is to take all your new found clarity and write down your
vision for what you want to experience in the upcoming year. Let me stress that
you do not need to know HOW you are going to get any of these things and
trying to figure it out is the fastest way to get bogged down and lose focus.
Give yourself permission to get a little crazy with this and DREAM BIG!
Imagine that you can actually have, be and do anything that you desire.
There is nothing standing in your way.
Now go for it!
While you are writing this big dream out, do your best to incorporate all
five senses into the description. Feel how awesome it will be to have all
that you desire.
Let the juicy goodness wash over you.
How does it feel?
OK..Now what do I do with my vision?
Keep your vision close to you and refer to it often. This is your map
for the coming year. Keep it accessible and look at it often.
If you are feeling crafty, you can take this a step farther and make a
dream map or vision board out of this.
Look at your vision statement / dream map often and allow yourself to
feel how great it is to have all these things in your life.
EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT THERE YET!
Keep your eyes peeled for opportunities that will bring these things to you.
Focus on what is showing up and how you are getting closer every day.
When you feel like you are losing focus,look at your map and reconnect with it.
Feel free to change it, and adjust to it as you move through the year.
I know that I can easily get distracted and scattered by a million shiny
things that I come across every day. Staying connected to my vision keeps
my focused and on track. It also helps me determine if that shiny sparkly
thing is worth my time and effort.
Oh Yhea….I forgot the most important step.
Once you finish with the creation process,take some time and CELEBRATE how awesome you are.
You totally ROCK!
I wish you many blessings and lots of juicy goodness in the New Year.
The Freak Factor
Posted by: | CommentsI am still thinking about this week’s Defy the Box Radio Show. I had a great conversation with Dave Rendall about his manifesto called:
The Freak Factor : Discovering Uniqueness by Flaunting Weakness. ( Download it and read it!)
When I first read this I was very impressed. It resonated with the core message behind Defy the Box.
Let your Freak Flag Fly in order to enjoy great meaning and success.
I can’t stress this point enough…… It’s OK to be different, and there is nothing wrong with you.
It’s time to stop making yourself wrong and trying to stuff yourself into the “Box” that society is trying to cram you into. It is a waste of your time and energy, and it just doesn’t feel very good. You would be better served by embracing these “problems” that other folks think you have and finding an environment that supports them.
I can’t stress how important it is to create the right environment and find the right people to surround you. You are not necessarily born into it. Sometimes you need to go out and create it. I think that accepting yourself helps a lot with this. The way you feel about yourself and what makes you different directly affects who and what you attract in to your experience.
For example, when I had Kali from the Kink Academy on DTB radio, we talked about authentic sexuality and the importance of accepting and feeling good about your desires. If you feel that your kinky desires are bad, then you tend to attract a person into your experience who feels that you are bad for wanting those things…..which in turn feeds your feelings of being bad. When you embrace your desires and feel good about them, you will attract people in to your experience who are down with them too, and you can enjoy some fun and feel good about it.
Is there anything about you that you are tired of trying to fix?
What would happen if you embraced it ?
You can listen you the Freak Factor episode here:
