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Some People Will Ditch You
Posted by: | CommentsAre you afraid people won’t like you if you let the real you show through and you speak your truth?
This is a common fear for my clients. They are afraid that people will judge them or ditch them if they start being authentic and stop playing the game of trying to be what people expect them to be. They are afraid that as they grow and evolve, they will lose their friends.
You know what? It’s true!
Some people will ditch you and judge you when you stop playing the game and start following your heart and your truth. They will get pissed off that you’re not doing what they want you to do! They will tell you that your dreams are crazy and list 100 different reasons why they won’t work. They might stop being your friend and talk shit about you behind your back.
I want you to know that this behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
BUT it is still hard to take when someone you’ve know for a long time rejects you because your following your heart and speaking your truth; especially if it is family.
What helps me get through is the knowledge that being myself and speaking my truth will ultimately lead me to the people and the life that I want to live. The more authentic I am, the better life feels and the more meaningful people and opportunities show up for me.
When you begin to fully love and accept all parts of yourself-especially the weird ones-you become a beacon for all the people and opportunities that will make your life feel totally kick-ass! For every person who rejects you, five new awesome people will show up.
Besides – You are not meant to hide who you are! You are meant to be 100% you-in your full freaky glory. You are a freak of nature! There is no-one else like you. You have unique gifts and talents that are specific to you that the world needs.
The best way for you to bring these gifts forward is to follow your heart, live authentically, and speak your truth. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing it!
What helps you deal with the fall out of people dropping off as you step more fully into your freaky self?
Why All This Sex Talk ?
Posted by: | CommentsIf you have been following Defy the Box radio, you will see that sex and sexuality is a big topic for discussion there right now.A few folks have been asking why I feel it is important to talk about this in the context of my business.
This is the basis of what I am hearing: “Isn’t sexuality a bit personal??? You are not supposed to bring it into your business! It gives the wrong impression!”
This is exactly WHY I find it important to talk about sexuality.
In my mind, sex and sexuality are the one of the main areas where people are confined by their pre-packaged beliefs and stories around what is “right and wrong” and “good and bad”. It is topic that can easily create low vibrational feelings of doubt, shame,fear and guilt. When the reality is, when I am fully accepting and embracing my sexuality, it leads to the most amazing feelings of joy,bliss and expansion that I have ever known. To me there is lots of personal power there.
I remember when I was about 8 years old. I was just begining to really discover my body and how good it could make me feel. My family was not religious, but I liked to go to church with my friend and sing during the service with her. I remember one sermon in particular that said that the feelings I was having in my body were evil and bad and I should not touch myself or even think about that. I could not believe what I was hearing ! It was confusing and scary. I did not want to be evil, but I also somehow knew in my heart that my natural feeling were OK. So I did not let that stop me from enjoying myself.
For many people, this is not the case. They begin to doubt themselves and their natural feelings and urges, and make themselves wrong for having them.In my mind, this is one of the worse things you can do. You are basically tuning out your inner-guidance system…or as I like to say..you are tuning out your Inner-Freak. You begin to ignore the part of you that knows what feels good to you, and what will bring you the most joy and bliss. This does not only apply to your sexuality, it applies to all areas of your life. Your Inner-Freak knows what makes you special and unique in all areas of your life. It is what makes you stand out from the crowd in all your brilliant juicy goodness. It is where your true magic and power lies. Once you begin to shut it out, you lose touch with it and it gets harder and harder to access.
I also find that when you are constantly ignoring your desires and making them wrong,weather we are talking about a sexual desire or a desire for something in your life, it makes you feel bad about yourself. Like there is some dirty little secret that must stay hidden no matter what the cost. This takes up so much energy that could be used for something else, like creating a life that ROCKS!
Let me assure you, that most people have something about themselves that they feel needs to stay hidden because it is so flawed that no one will want them after they see it. I am quit certain that if you feel good about it, then you will attract other folks who feel good about it too. if you feel bad and shameful about it, you will attract other folks who will make you feel bad and shameful about it too.
Its your world. You attract people and things into it based on your feelings and thoughts about things. If you fully embrace and feel good about who you are and what you desire, then you will attract people and things that reflect that back to you.
If you embrace and accept your Inner-Freak, you will find your true magic and power!
If you are curious to explore authentic sexuality, Join us on Tuesday night, 8/25, at 9 PM EST on Defy the Box radio. My guest is Kali from the Kink Academy and we will be discussing the importance of embracing all parts of your kinky bad-ass self. http://www.DefytheBox.com/defy-the-box-radio
