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Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, and miserable, and you just can’t see anyway out of it?
This is the problem that has brought many of my clients to me. They are feeling stuck in an uncomfortable situation and they just can’t see their way out. They want help escaping the rut and creating a life that feels good to them. The first place we start is by looking for the pre-packaged beliefs that are keeping them stuck.
What’s a Pre-Packaged Belief?
A pre-packaged belief is a story that you tell yourself about how the word works, or what is possible. These stories might be handed down to you by your family, or the people around you, or even the media. It is usually something you have heard over and over and you believe it to be true. The thing is, these stories are not necessarily true…especially for you.
Trying to live by these pre-package beliefs causes discomfort, is extremely challenging, and ultimately it doesn’t work for you. The end result is that you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can’t make it work, and you feel trapped in a situation that is totally not working for you.
Here’s and Example
I used to work with sincere, intelligent, magical guy who had just turned 30. He came to me because he was struggling in his job as a warehouse manager. He was stressed out and overwhelmed most of the time. He wanted help finding a way to make it bearable.
We soon uncovered the issue. He was really a musician at heart. Playing music put him into the bliss zone and made him come alive. He went to The Berkley School of Music and even toured with a band. But he left the music life because he wanted to get serious and settle down. It was interesting to discover that he had bought into the story that you could not make enough money to survive as a musician!
His father had drilled it into his head that he needed a secure job with a steady income in order to get ahead and survive. So, that is what he did. He left making music for his spare time, and got a decent paying, secure job.
The problem with this is that his “secure job” left him feeling depleted and depressed and he did not have the energy to make music. He began to doubt himself and started to feel like there was something wrong with him for not being happy and satisfied in his good, secure job as a warehouse manager.
Let’s Switch this Story Around!
I asked him to re-write his story about making money as a musician.
What if you could make enough money to THRIVE as a musician? What would that look like?
As he began to explore what this might look like, he began to become aware of a number of different possibilities around how this might work. I gave him some homework that allowed him to connect with this energy on a deeper level, and I taught him some tricks to use to help him stay connected to his new story of being a successful musician.
Next thing you know he had a plan. He decided to move to Atlanta and tap into the music scene there. I just heard from him the other day. After being in Atlanta for 4 months, he has lined up enough work as a professional musician to pay the bills and then some. He is living his dream and making money too. He has tapped into his ever abundant flow and life feels great!
I can help you tap into your ever abundant flow too! Check out my services page to see how we can work together to do this.
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What does the word career mean to you?
How about Life’s work?
Some people hold the belief that their career should be their life’s work. Built into this is the pre-packaged belief that you choose a career and expect to live happily ever after within one topic forever more.
Sounds kind of limiting. If I think back, my interests have grown, shifted and expanded many times over. I believe this is our essential nature, to grow and expand our desires and interests. If this is true, it would make sense that many of us go through periods of finding ourselves in jobs that no longer serve us or not being able to focus on one topic of interest for very long.
This often leads to confusion and stress, and the people around you wondering when you are going to get it together, make a decision, and settle down. That is what you are SUPPOSED to do right?
Well, what if you decided to make your career/life’s work the pursuit of happiness? If you are going to live forever more in one topic, then it might as well be something that feels good.
What if you made it your job to align yourself with activites and events that made you feel alive, tapped in and inspired ?
Some may ask " what about making money?"
Try this idea on for size: For many of you, money = happiness and freedom. So if you are doing your job and feeling good then the money will naturally show up. That is what Law of Attraction is all about. You get more of your primary thoughts and feelings.
I suggest making a "career" out of living a happy life and not focusing on finding a job that will produce enough income so that you can then do the things that you think will make you happy. Why not go straight to happy?
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One thing I have learned and love to share with my clients is the idea that life is meant to feel good and be PLEASURABLE. For many people that is a hard idea to grasp. They are so used to struggling and pushing through , they begin to buy into the idea that that is “just the way it is.” There are so many limiting beliefs that come up around this idea:
You need to struggle in order for something to be meaningful.
Life is hard.
You got to work hard for the money
You have to MAKE things happen
I say throw these ideas out the door and try approaching things from a different angle. I think Abraham_Hicks says it best:
Be easy about it. Don’t rush into things. Savor them more. Make more plans and be more deliberate and specific about the plans you are making, and in all you do, let your dominant intent be to find that which pleasures you as you imagine it. Let your desire for pleasure and your desire for feeling good be your only guiding light. As you seek those thoughts that feel good, you will always be in vibrational harmony with the Energy that is your Source. And under those conditions, only good can come to you — and only good can come from you.
Excerpted from a workshop in Philadelphia, PA on Tuesday, April 14th, 1998
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Lately, I have been having conversations with people about the places that feel crappy in their lives. It doesn’t matter what part of their life they are speaking about, the story is always the same-
This is what I have to put up with in order to have the: job, money, family, relationship, or the lifestyle that I want.
My response to them is: “Who says?”
I want to know who made up this rule!
The one that says you “have to” put up with something in your life that feels bad on a regular basis in order to have what you desire.
It appears like lots of people have bought into this rule! I see people struggling with this on a daily basis. They dread going to work, or they are not getting the affection they desire from their relationship. They may feel stuck in something or uninspired by their life. They settle for a less than satisfying situation because they think that is the only option. Then they suffer through it.
I wonder when it became “OK” to feel like that? I have to imagine that on some level you feel that it is OK for parts of your life to feel crappy if you resign yourself to staying in that place.
I was stuck in this trap too!
I had bought into the story that certain things in life were supposed to feel bad especially work! They don’t call it work for nothing right?
I thought I was supposed to make things happen by working long hard hours and always striving. You always took the highest paying job no matter if you liked it or not, because it was all about the money. It did not matter that I was exhausted, disconnected, uninspired, watching too much TV and needing to get “my party on” a few times a week.
I was stuck in a story that said this was just how life was.
I had to suffer, tune out, feel stuck, and be uninspired so that I could do the things I was supposed to do in order to have the things I wanted in life. It seemed to me that everyone around me was caught up in a similar situation.
Boy did it feel crappy!
Funny thing is, I was so caught up in this story that I did not really know the difference. I thought that was how life was supposed to be. Sometimes, I would suspect that there could be more to life. I would glimpse it every now and then in other peoples eye’s, but I could never figure out what it was exactly.
A New Perspective
Then I read a really cool book called the Four Agreements . It suggested to me that life was meant to feel good. I did not have to struggle in order to have what I wanted. I could make my own rules for how I lived my life.Opening up to this possibility shifted many things for me.
I made the choice to find a different work environment that felt better to me and I still made money. It was no longer OK to feel stuck. If it felt bad on a regular basis- something had to change. I had to change. I began working with a coach. I started to question my old story that said work was supposed to be hard and I had to suffer through in order to be successful.
Now my Reality is Different!
I no longer struggle against things that feel bad. I know that there is always a solution and it is possible to find a different way of approaching things. It does not mean I abandon something, but rather find a new way of approaching it that works for me.
If something is not feeling right, I determine what will make it feel better and I take steps to change it. I am back in a place of choice.
I make the rules for my life now. My number 1 rule is that I feel good in every aspect of my life.
What’s your number 1 rule going to be? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.
