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Sep
19

Throw Down the Gauntlet

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Last night I was on the table enjoying another awesome massage from my friend Dan and we started talking about blazing your own trail and arriving at the point when you know that you are living your dream.

You see Dan is living his dream right now, but it wasn’t always like that.

I first met Dan at a friend’s party. He arrived dressed all funky with his hair in two buns, eyeliner and a cool hat. He was fabulous and fun. He was a DJ and was into photography, and like to go frolic in the woods.  But he was not very happy over all. He worked a 9-5 job in an office where he made good money, but he was bored to death. He could not be his fabulous self at work. It was slowly sucking the soul right out of him. He dreaded Monday mornings when he would have to leave his awesome fun weekend life and go back to work.

Dan really wanted to do body work, hang out with his peeps, play music and take pictures. He left his boring day job and got a job at a local healing practice. That was cool, but he was not really making enough money to live on. He worried about money all the time and whether he would have to go back to working in an office. He felt some pressure from his family around getting serious and getting a real job. On some level he bought into this idea and struggled with the desire to ‘be responsible’ versus doing meaningful work. He wanted to start building his own private clients list because he knew that that was where the money was, but he wasn’t sure he could pull it off. He dragged his feet around making business cards, and had all kinds of reasons not to go for it full force.

Then he decided to get a tattoo. This was not Dan’s first tattoo, but all the others were placed so that they could be easily hidden for work. He had always wanted to get something that wound up his forearm, but never did because he believed that it would prevent him from getting a job because he could not cover it up. For a long time he felt limited by this, and on this day he decided to say “Fuck It!”.  The timing was right, and the inspiration was there, and he went ahead and got a beautiful vine spiraled up his forearm.

This tattoo was more than another beautiful adornment on a sexy guy. This was Dan’s way of throwing down the gauntlet and claiming the life that he wanted. Getting this tattoo was his way of saying “I am all in”.  In his mind there was no going back.

It is not surprising that over the next year Dan’s list of private clients grew, and he had opportunities to make money doing all the things he loved. Last night we were talking about how kick-ass his life is right now. He has the freedom to do everything that he loves. His commitment paid off. He is living his dream! Rock on Dan!

I am curious if you have a gauntlet of your own to throw down?

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Jul
16

The Price of Impatience

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I thought it was a good idea at the time.

I was so excited to make things happen and create some big changes so that I could make a giant leap forward and step more firmly into my kick-ass dream life.

What I didn’t consider was that the three programs I signed up for to help me do just that were all going on at the same time.

I realized that I had  made myself crazy busy and I started to spiral into overwhelm.

I have  put myself into full time SUMMER SCHOOL!

What was I thinking?

I can tell you what I was thinking: I want my kick-ass dream life to show up RIGHT NOW !

I was getting impatient and feeling like things were not happening fast enough.

How many of you can relate to that ?

So, I decided to take some action that I felt would rocket me forward.

The problem is that I didn’t take the time to create a structure to support me in doing this. I did not step back and imagine what it would be like to be in these programs, and the time commitment and the workload.  I didn’t focus on the outcome that I was looking for and create space for it to happen.  I didn’t clear away the things in my life that were not in alignment with my stepping up in this big new way.

I didn’t set myself up for success in anyway and now I am paying the price.

Overwhelm!

Funny, Abraham-Hicks sent out a quote   the other day that fits perfectly.

“Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You’re just not ready to receive it right now.”

These words ring true for me.  I was not ready to receive what I had asked for.

I ask myself: “What needs to be released, or brought in to support you in stepping into your dream?”

One thing that needs to be brought in is a newly defined commitment to do this work, and to make it my  #1 priority.

The next thing I did was re-evaluate how I was spending my time and decide if there were any things that are  not serving me. There are a few groups and projects that I have decided to let go of because they are not really going anywhere.  I also had to redefine my relationship with Plants vs. Zombies, (Sorry guys…I will only be coming around every now and then.) and my TV.

I did make the commitment to keep some space for fun, and not to burn myself out working 12 hour days.  That just does not feel good and is so NOT part of my kick-ass dream life!

So we will see what happens.

The Overwhelm has left the building and I am beginning to feel the juicy goodness of everything expanding around me.

Oh yeah… that feels nice!

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