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Lightning Strikes and Appreciations
Posted by: | CommentsThis past weekend, I had a big realization at the Very Cool Life retreat. It zapped my consciousness like a lightning bolt and made me realize that I needed to stop being so lazy about the way I’ve been creating my life.
I’ve been very sloppy with my focus and my intention. I was letting the bus-i-ness of my life distract me from taking the time to choose my thoughts and to focus on what I really wanted in my life and my biz. I found myself settling for just getting by and that felt awful to me. I’m here to prosper and thrive, not just get by!
I’d been being very lazy when it came to directing my thoughts and I was playing really small with my intentions and desires. My focus has been on making just enough money to get by, rather than really claiming what I wanted for myself. I was expecting to struggle financially just because that was what the people around me were focused on. I’ve been thinking small and playing small, and it didn’t feel very Kick-Ass to me.
But that’s what happens when you buy into the mainstreams stories about what is possible. I let myself get caught up in everyone else’s experience and stopped focusing on my own. The end result……I got exactly what I expected-just enough to get by.
This week I’ve spent some time thinking about what I really want in my life and got back to my daily Kick-Ass List. I’ve recommitted myself to this daily practice. I start my day by writing in my journal about all the things I love in my life and all the things I dream of doing. I think about the most kick-ass version of my coaching biz and all the bold courageous people I work with. I write about all the cool things I’m going to do and the places I’ll go.
My efforts have already paid off! Things are shifting and I’m seeing evidence of my abundance in a number of different ways; free coffee, not having to pay for a household repair project that I thought was going to coast a lot and a new client!
My life is feeling kick-ass again!
I think this is the perfect segue into playing Amplification Friday! The more time spent basking in appreciation the better!
This week I am appreciating so many things!
I appreciate Drew Rozell for being such an awesome coach and creating the container for me to re-connect to my roots and my real desires.
I love the juicy good feeling that come along with thinking about all the kick-ass things I want to do in my life. I love getting caught up in the swirl of juicy goodness as I imagine riding a bike through the Tuscan country side and making pottery and exploring the towns and villages.
It’s so delightful to imagine writing the finale check to pay off my mortgage and having the freedom to pick and up and fly to San Diego for the weekend to visit my friend Danielle whenever I feel like it.
I appreciate the clarity that is showing up for me as I apply my focus towards what I want my coaching biz to look like, and how I want to feel when I’m working.
I appreciate my friends, my home, my kitties, and my amazing boyfriend! My life is kick-ass! It feels so juicy and good.
What are you appreciating about your week?
Why do people do this?
Posted by: | CommentsI am really curious to hear what you think about something.
So, last week I was having an awesome conversation with Pace Smith of the Freak Revolution about living your kick-ass dream life and being awesome, and we got off onto a tangent about this crazy statistic that says the vast majority of people need to have something really bad happen in order for them to do something about improving their lives.
This drives me crazy!!!
Why does the shit have to hit the fan before someone will take the time to focus on what would make their lives better?
It seems to me that it would be so much easier and life would get kick-ass really fast, if you spent your time fine tuning and focusing on the things that would make your life even cooler, rather than waiting until things are crappy and you have to do something to fix it.
But, that doesn’t seem to be the case for the majority of people.
I wonder why?
What are your thoughts about this?
Share your thoughts in the comments below.
BTW….you can listen into this conversation that Pace and I were having by clicking here. We recorded it for you.
Flying by the Seat of my Pants
Posted by: | CommentsDo you know the expression: ”Flying by the seat of your pants?”, well that is what we were doing this week on Defy the Box Radio.
I decided that I wanted to see what it was like to do the show free form and see what kinds of ideas came up in conversation between me and my co-host Beth.
In the back of my mind I imagine the show being more like Howard Stern and his side-kick Robin, bantering back and forth all the time. Listening to them was exciting because you never knew what was going to come out of their mouths. I want Defy the Box Radio to be like that; spontaneous and fun, and I like the wild card aspect of not knowing what we are going to come up with during the conversation.
I have to say that I feel the show was a wild success!
Beth and I had an amazing, organically unfolding conversation. The call was effortless and I had a blast doing it and the people who were listening live said the show rocked!
Whoo-hoo!
I think we’re to something here.
Give it a listen and let me know what you think in the comments below.
Rules….Do You Need Them?
Posted by: | CommentsRules……just hearing that word makes me bristle a bit.
It brings up feeling of being controlled, and constrained.
Rules often make me want to rebel!
Growing up I could not stand someone else telling me what I
could and could not do.
Why do I need to go to bed at 8 if I am not tired?
Why can’t I eat a cupcake before dinner?
Why do I have to go to school when I don’t want to?
Rules seemed to be a big infringement on my personal freedom.
After all, I know what is best for me and I wanted the freedom to
choose for myself.
Are rules necessary?
You bet.
Rules are necessary to set up structure.
Rules keep things in order, especially when there are lots of
different kinds of people living in the same space.
It would be chaos without them. Each society creates its own
rules around how to live and interact with others.
We create laws in order to keep everyone safe. We all“AGREE”to them
for the most part and abiding by them is part of choosing to live in
the good ol’ USA. (Although, I do feel that some laws are crap and have
nothing to do with our safety but that is another topic .)
And then we have the unwritten rules that govern how we each are
supposed to behave and interact with each other.
These are the tricky one’s.
I am not sure who agreed to them and when they were discussed.
No one asked me, but I on some level, I am expected to abide by them.
Do we need these “unwritten and implied” rules?
I feel that these rules are meant to be questioned so that we
each can determine which ones work for us and which ones don’t.
An example of this might be “ Be polite to strangers”.
In lots of cases this is a good rule to live by, but what if a stranger
gropes on the subway? Are you supposed to be polite then?
Then you can have your own rules about how YOU live your life.
These rules are all about what you allow and the structure that you
have set up for yourself in order to ensure that you are happy,
nurtured, and successful. These are the rules that I am most curious about.
Do you think you need them?
Where the Juicy Goodness Can Be Found
Posted by: | CommentsThe surest way to bring more juicy goodness into your life is
by deepening your own relationship with YOU.
This is the most important connection that you can create.
Otherwise, how do you know what brings you happiness, meaning
and success?
This is trickier than it may sound for many people, especially the
freaky folks.
We live in a society where there are lots of expectations and
pre-packaged beliefs around how we are ‘supposed’ to live, and
who we are ‘supposed’ to be in this world.
When you do not fit into that mold,it is easy to feel like there
is something wrong with you, and you begin to feel unworthy,
undeserving, resentful, and a whole lot of other emotions that
feels yucky.
It is really easy to start making yourself wrong for being different.
The worst part is that you tend to settle for whatever comes your
way because you think that you can’t have anything else.
You are so busy trying to be something that you are not,
there is no space to ask yourself :
“What would feel good to me?”
or
“What works in MY life?”.
These questions are the key to bringing in more Juicy Goodness.
I know this sounds simple, and it is on one level,
but I also recognize that it can be very difficult to do.
So many people never learned how to ask themselves these
questions on a regular basis.
When we are young we set our
course for who think we are supposed to be in the world.
This course is not necessarily based on who we are, but rather
who we think we should be.
So we spend our time trying to force ourselves in to a life that
does not fit, rather than exploring and discovering who we really are,
and what feels good to us. We end up in jobs that are dull,
and meaningless, in relationships that feel crappy,
and generally feeling unsatisfied.
In order to make ourselves feel better, we shop, eat,
have sex with the wrong people, read self help books,
and usually blame everyone else for our misery.
We spend our time looking outside ourselves for the solution,
when it is right there inside of us waiting to be discovered.
You are the only one who knows what is right for you.
The key is being committed to deepening your relationship with yourself.
How do you do that?
Make a commitment to knowing yourself better.
Get in the habit of asking yourself some of these key questions:
“What makes ME happy?
“What already works for me and feels good in my life?”
“What do I enjoy doing?”
“What do I want from _________________?”
( my career, relationship, health, sexuality, or any given situation)
“How do I want to feel when I _______________?”
(Am at work, in relationship, walk down the street, anything that you do)
“What would feel good to me right now?”
If you really want to get intimate with yourself, whenever something
or someone is bothering you and making you feel upset, irritated or
generally uncomfortable, ask yourself:
“What about this is making me feel uncomfortable?”.
Listen to the answers and go out and use that information to create a
life that is designed to suit your unique style.
Surround yourself with the people and things that support your happiness.
Nurture the relationship with yourself as if you were your favorite lover.
Give yourself everything you need to be happy and feel great.
You will be surprised at how easy it becomes once you get in the habit
of asking yourself what you need.
As an extra bonus you will discover
that all the people around you will benefit from your happiness.
Soon enough you will all be surrounded by all the Juicy Goodness
that life has to offer.
Does this sound doable to you?
