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What Will You Choose?
Posted by: | CommentsWhen was the last time you gave yourself permission to choose something different in your life?
The past few days have been really intense. I’ve been feeling unsettled and questioning a lot of things in my life. I’ve been asking myself the question- Am I really happy, or am I just pretending to be?
If I’m honest, I have to say that my life has not been feeling all that Kick-Ass lately. Admitting that makes me feel like a bit of a fraud, since I’m supposed to be the one teaching you how to create a Kick-Ass Life for yourself. Part of me feels like I always need to be on top of my game and a shining example of what a Kick-Ass Life looks like. I’m supposed to be positive, inspired and totally rocking it out all the time.
That is so not my reality sometimes!
Sometimes my life feels really difficult. I go through rough spots just like you, where I doubt myself and my choices. Things don’t turn out the way I plan, and I have to deal with the disappointment of it. I put pressure on myself to achieve so much, and it can be exhausting to keep up with it all.
Can you relate to any of that?
When I start feeling this way I always bring it back to the basics. I ask myself –
“How do you want to feel in your life?”
“What would be better?”
I entertain the idea of giving it all up and doing something completely different.
I do this to remind myself that I get choose what I want in my life. I’m not a victim, and nothing is happening to me. I am the source of my experience and I am in a place of choice in every moment.
I make my choices and I move forward. I re-align with the things I want in my life.
Then everything starts to feel better.
What do you do when life gets difficult? Share your comments below!
Listen to DTB Radio Episode 3: Making Your Own Rules For Life
Posted by: | CommentsThis is a wonderful discussion around how other peoples rules become part of our lives from the get go, and how that conditions us to follow other peoples rules throughout our lives. We then explored different ways to determine if it is time for some new rules in your life, and if so, how do you go about determining what works for you.
Are you the Historian or the Screen Play Writer for your Life?
Posted by: | CommentsWhen you think and talk about your life, do you tell the story of what has been, or do you tell the story of what you want to create and experience?
If you are the historian of your life, you look at your life and tell the story of what has been, and all the things that have happened that have resulted in you being where you are now. Maybe you tell this story to justify where you are at now, and explain how you ended up stuck or struggling. I have a friend who is a fantastic historian. He tells the story of his bad marriage, his wife walking out and leaving him with their young daughter, being a single dad, and working in a dying industry. He feels anxiety about where his life is going and what is going to happen next. He referrers to this story often when he talks about his life.
And you know what, he continuously gets to experience more disappointment, conflict and struggle. The more he stays connected to his story, the more he lives it out.
You see when you are a historian of your life, you are continually amplifying the energy of your past.As you examine these painful places, and you focus your attention there, and you tell the story, you are amplifying that energy and asking the Universe for more of that.
Now, when you are the screen play writer for your life, you tell the story of what you want to experience. You create scenarios that describe how you want to feel and who you desire to be. You tell the story of the wonderful fulfilling job that you enjoy and are get paid big money to do. You tell the story of the satisfying relationships that you thrive in. As the screen play writer, you create the life that you want and that will feel good to you. the more you focus your attention on this story, the more you amplify the energy of what you want. You ask the Universe to give you some of that.
What ever you focus on and give energy to is what you create in your life. I say, focus on what you want and leave the rest behind!
So what are you? A historian or a screen play writer?





