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Why are we all so clueless when it comes to our own happiness?
Posted by: | CommentsBack in the day I was miserable in my job, and my “exciting, fabulous life” was completely unsatisfying. I was having a major identity crisis and had no idea who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do with my life.
On the surface it looked like I had it all. I had a job that paid well that I had lots of opportunities at. I had a nice apartment in the cool part of town. I was “somebody” in my social scene and I got VIP treatment at all the nightclubs and restaurants that I went to. I had a large circle of friends and there was always something to do.
It all felt so meaningless to me. I knew that there was something more out there for me, but I had no idea what it was. I felt unsatisfied, and this was a problem. It made me cranky, frustrated, and I liked to blame everyone else, especially at work, for my dissatisfaction. I was stressed out most of the time and I got sick a lot.
I had no idea what I wanted, I just knew that what I was living was not it.
How is it possible that I had no clue about what I wanted?
How could I not know what would bring satisfaction and meaning to my life?
I know that I’m not unique in having this problem. I hear similar stories from clients all the time.
I feel that I am meant for something more, but I am not sure what that is.
I am not sure what I want but I know that this is not “it”.
I want my life and work to be more meaningful, but I have no idea what that looks like.
How can everyone be so clueless around what would make them happy?
I think it all boils down to this:
We are not taught how to determine what would feel meaningful and make us happy.
We are actually taught the opposite.
We are taught how to; behave, do as we’re told, follow the rules, and like what we’re given.
And if you are like me, you spent a lot of time resisting this, but ultimately you learned that it was easier to play along and fit in.
You learn how to tune out the part of you that says “but I want this” and you half-heartedly embrace what you’re supposed to want.
BUT, there is always a part of you that is crying out for something more. Unfortunately, you get really good at ignoring it because it is too painful to hear.
The end result is that you hit your thirties and start to wonder “Is this it?” and a mid-life crisis is waiting for you right around the bend.
So….. what do you do?
How do you learn to tune into what really is meaningful to YOU and will make YOU happy?
Here are a few tips to get you started.
Start listening to the part of you that wants more from life. Give it permission to come forward and be heard.
Notice the parts of your life that feel bad to you. Get specific around what does not work for you. Then ask yourself what you would want instead.
Commit to looking for things that feel good and make you happy. Embrace them even if they’re unconventional and far from the norm.
Try these tips out and let me know what you discover in the comments below.
If you decide that you are tired of struggling with this on your own, send me an email by clicking here, to discuss how we can work together to get you clear on exactly what will bring more meaning and satisfaction to your life.
What is A Vision for My Life and Why Do I Need One?
Posted by: | CommentsCreating a vision is an essential step in manifesting a fabulous and meaningful life. It is the process of connecting to the things you want in life. How you want your life to look and to feel. You can have a vision for every aspect of your life, such as relationships, work, home, financial, and health. It is a conscious act of choosing what would feel good to you.
A vision also gives you a positive place to aim yourself at as you move through your life. I think that many people are wondering aimlessly, going from one thing to the next, following a path that was laid out by other people, or what they think they are supposed to do. What brings success to one person does not necessarily work for another, and more importantly, it may not feel good to you.
A vision is a means of telling the universe what you want to experience. It is all about what you want more of. To me, this is one of the biggest problems facing most people. They do not spend time focusing their energy on what they want to have in life. Much of their time is spent focusing on what they do not want, and they continue to get more of that. What you focus on expands into your reality, so it best serves you to shift your attention to the things that feel good, are working for you and you say “YES I want more of that” to. This seems to be the opposite of what a majority of people do.
A vision draws you towards it. When you think of it you can tune into how good it feels. Doing so amplifies the energy of your desire and sends a clear message to the Universe, saying more of this pleases, and the Universe always gives you what you energetically ask for.
I find that creating a vision is extremely helpful when you are feeling stuck and are not sure what the next steps are for you. Taking some time to relax and think about what you want to experience is a powerful thing. It gives you a new direction to head in. Once you are clear on what you want it is surprising how easily things begin to open up and flow.
I wonder what your vision for your life is? Do you even have one?
Next I will talk about HOW to create your Vision for your Life and how to amplify it and stay connected
