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Do you ever doubt that you are on the right path?
Posted by: | CommentsRecently, I was having a conversation with someone around this very
subject. He was wondering if he was on the right path because he
was not getting the business that he needed to keep moving forward.
His business had dropped off significantly over the past few years
due to the economy and other trends in his field. He’s been living
off his savings lately and was considering going out and getting
another job, but he did not want to. He loves his work and the idea
of giving it up and doing something else was painful.
We talked about his situation for awhile, and it became very clear
that he was doing exactly what he is meant to be doing, but his
fear and doubt were stopping him from putting himself out there in
bold new ways in order to attract business.
His energy was used up by questioning his self worth and he did
not trust in his ability to make it work. As things got tougher and
tougher, the fearful voice in his head got louder and his
self-doubt grew. Every unsuccessful offer became an opportunity for
that voice to say:”I told you so.”
Have you ever felt that way?
I sure have!
I have stood chest deep in my fear around not making enough money,
and no one wanting what I am offering. My fear drained my energy
and caused me to make a bunch of half-assed attempts to offer my
services. I was so afraid of being rejected; I did not really even
try to put myself out there. Of course no one hired me, and I could
hear my fear whispering in my ear: “I told you so”.
So what did I do?
I learned how to kick-fears ass so that it no longer has power over me.
I learned how to acknowledge, explore and replace my fear with thoughts about what I wanted in my life.
You can read more about how I did this in this blog post.
Once I did this, I was able to own that I was on the right path and
I was 100% committed to making it work. I began to show up fully in
my business and it became much easier to stretch myself and try new
things to stand out from the crowd. Failure is not an option for me.
My questions to your are:
What would be possible if fear was not controlling you anymore?
What would you try?
How would you show up in your business and your life?
Share your answers in the comments below!
How to get out of and stay out of panic mode
Posted by: | CommentsDo you ever find yourself thrown into panic mode because you are trying really hard and doing everything that you can think of, but things still are not turning out as you planned?
I see this frequently with my clients, and I admit I fall into this trap sometimes myself. Usually it goes something like this: You have made the commitment to create your kick-ass dream life and you are diligently creating your own healing /coaching business. You are making some progress, but you feel like things have come to a standstill. You start wondering what you are doing wrong and you kick it into high gear and start working more hours, trying to figure out what you can DO to create more business and opportunities. The money is not flowing in as you would like, and you start to panic a bit.
You have no idea what the problem is, and failure is not an option. You keep pushing forward but it is all starting to feel a bit crappy and not so kick-ass!
What do you do?
Do you keep pushing forward?
After all, you are in-it-to-win-it. You are determined to make this work and you figure that eventually something has to give.
Eventually something will give, and it will probably be your health, or your sanity.
The solution to your problem is not working harder, more hours, or your ability to figure it out and push on through, even though that is what most people believe. This idea is one big ole’ pre-packaged belief. It is built up on the idea that you need to work really hard in order to justify having the things that you want, and it carries around with it an underlying message that if you can’t make it happen, there MUST be something wrong with you.
Just so you know, this is a bunch of crap!
Sure, hard work and determination are wonderful, as long as it is moving you in the right direction. When it is not you find yourself working really hard and not getting the results that you want, and feeling like there is something wrong with you because you can’t seem to make it work. You also tend to end up way off course because you start trying things out of desperation that are not in alignment with you dream and the results that you get are far from what you desire.
Are you familiar with that feeling?
The solution is to stop pushing and trying to make something happen, and to take a step back and calmly evaluate the situation to determine where you might be blocking yourself, or are out of alignment with your dream. Rather than doing more and pushing harder, I suggest that you take a break and go have some fun and get tapped back into how you want to feel in your life. Then evaluate the situation to see where you are off course. Once you have a clear picture of where you are and where you want to be, it will be easier to make some new choices and take some inspired actions to get you back on track move you towards your dream. It’s all about stepping back and fine tuning your process so that you get the results that you desire without panicking and going way off course.
Below I share some tips for doing this.
1. As soon as you start to feel frustrated and stuck, and you have the urge to do more and work harder, take a break and walk away from the problem for a bit. Go do something fun. (After all, your kick-ass dream life is full of fun and ease isn’t’ it?)
2. Spend a few minutes reconnecting to your vision of what you want to create, allow yourself to really feel it.
3. Consider these questions: Am I attached to my dream unfolding a certain way? What are 10 other ways that I can go about achieving this same outcome?
4. Notice what is showing up. If it is not what you desire, how are you resonating enough with this result to attract it to you? What do you need to shift?
5. Think about how you want things to unfold and how you want to feel during the process.
Try out these tips next time you feel stuck and start telling yourself that you need to hunker down and make things happen and let me know how they work for you in the comments below..
If you are ready to banish working in panic mode form your life for good, send me an email to request a 30 minute Breakthrough session. This session is my gift to you. During this session we will identify how to easily get you back on course and keep you there. Click here to send me an email to set up your session today.
