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Ten Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life
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1. Commit to looking for the things that make you happy. Start making a daily kick-ass list. Write down everything that’s kick-ass and that you want more of.
2. Make your relationship with yourself and feeling good the most important thing. Take full responsibility for your own happiness and outcomes.
3. Spend time everyday focusing on what you want in your life. Picture yourself having it without worrying about how it’s going to get there. If you want more money- claim it! Don’t worry about HOW it’s going to show up, just picture yourself having it in your bank account…or under your mattress…. and imagine all the fun stuff you’ll do with it.
2. Create space to sit quietly and connect to your inner-freak every day. Listen to what it tells you. It knows the way to all that is juicy and fun.
3. Shake things up a bit on a regular basis to put yourself outside of your regular perspective. This will keep you from getting stuck in a rut. (I decided to go for my dream of being a Life Coach when I was at Burning Man.)
4. Tap into your curiosity and sense of wonder. Ask questions, dig deep, and let yourself be surprised.
5. Play more! Have fun! This will help you tap into the energy of your kick-ass life and attract more of it to you.
6. Explore all the things that interest you and try it on for size. Conduct your very own Life Experiments.
7. Don’t be a pussy!! Be bold and daring….take risks make up your own rules and do your own thing.
8. Stop worrying about offending people!! Not everyone is going to like you no matter what! What is most important is that YOU like you. Be true to yourself.
9. Give yourself permission to do all the things that you think you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do, but you really-really want to. Have no regrets!
10. Surround yourself with other kick-ass people who are doing cool things with their lives. Ditch the negative nancys, complainers, whiners, and the dream smashers.
Whats your favorite?
It’s Time for Amplification Friday!
Posted by: | CommentsHow often do you take the time to sit back and bask in appreciation for the good things in your life?
Doing so adds a big boost to your Kick-Ass Creation process. By basking in your good feelings you are amplifying that energy and sending a powerful message to the Universe that says-MORE OF THIS PLEASE!
This is why I’ve created Amplification Friday!
We’ve been doing this for the past year or so over on my Facebook Fan page and it occurred to me that it would be really cool to do it here too.
Would you care to join me in a bit of basking?
I invite you to sit back and reflect on your week. Think about everything that you appreciated in it.
Include all the different aspects in your life….people, places, things and your job.
Don’t forget to find something to appreciate about yourself too!
Now that you have all of these wonderful thoughts, take 5 minutes to bask in the juicy good feelings that thinking of these things brings.
How did that feel?
I invite you to share what you appreciate in the comments below to put a bit more power behind it.
I encourage you to spread the love by sharing it with your friends.
I’ll start things off: I appreciate the freedom that I have in my life! I can pretty much do what ever I want when I want. I love the ability that I have to get up and focus my attention on what excites me and interests me for the day. I get to follow my bliss and it rocks! I’m also in deep appreciation for the amazing people in my life. I am surrounded by the most creative, interesting, caring people who pursue their passions and love to have a good time! What are you appreciating from your week?
How to Create a Kick-Ass Life – Part 1
Posted by: | CommentsYou’ve declared that 2011 is going to be better than last year. It’s got to be, right?
Hell, maybe you’ve even gone as far as to say that this year is going to be the year you settle for nothing less than Kick-Ass! Woo-hoo!!!
The question is, just how are you going to go about making this year better than last year? What’s your plan for achieving kick-ass?
You have one, right?
If not, I’d love to offer up a few suggestions for how to go about doing it.
I’m doing this because I want to see you living a Kick-Ass Life. Mostly because I’m selfish, the more people living kick-ass lives, the more interesting, awesome, happy people there are for me to hang out and play with.
I mean seriously. People living kick-ass lives are fun and from my perspective- Fun is better!!
Assuming that you all want kick-ass lives, I’m going to share some things that will help you create one for yourself.
First and foremost, the proper mindset is essential!
The way you approach creating change is very important. Where you focus your attention, how you think about things and your level of commitment deeply influences your outcome.
If you’re like many people, you’re used to focusing on the things that aren’t working for you. You get caught up in your problems and you can’t see any solutions. You feel stuck and overwhelmed and nothing seems to change, or it gets worse! This is so frustrating, and you begin to doubt yourself and often times give up.
You’re approaching things from the wrong angle!
When you focus on all your problems and the things you don’t want, you get more of the same. When you learn how to shift your mindset, so that you are focusing your attention on all the things that you do want in your life, and the things that feel good to you, then you will get the results you are looking for.
Where you focus your attention matters! Luckily, this is something that you actually have control over. You get to choose what thoughts you pay attention to. It takes a bit of practice, but you’ll get the hang of it.
Anchor yourself into your desire to live a Kick-Ass Life.
This is important because eventually things are going to get difficult. If your not anchored into your desire it will be really easy to give up when the going gets rough. If you want to succeed at creating your Kick-Ass Life, you have to be committed and persistent in your efforts. One way you can do this by setting an intention and making your happiness a priority.
Do you want some help working on your mindset?
Sign up for the Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 group program. We will be covering mindset in depth in the first 4 week module of the program. I also provide you with lots of cool tools that help you anchor into your commitment and amplify the energy of feeling good so your entire process feels so much easier. You can learn more here: http://www.defythebox.com/create-your-kick-ass-life-in-2011/
In my next post I am going to talk about how getting up close and personal with yourself makes creating your Kick-Ass Life so much easier.
The question is:Do you want to feel better?
Posted by: | CommentsI saw it in his eye’s today as we sat and talked. That far away, hurt expression that tells me he is caught up in his head and thinking about something that does not feel good to him.
I asked him what was going on in that head of his and he shared some stuff about not feeling good about himself and feeling like he was not accomplishing enough in his life. I have seen him in this place before.
Hell, I have seen myself in this place; my head starts to fill up with thoughts about how I can’t seem to get things where I want them, and all my failures. Then I start comparing myself to other people and I just don’t measure up. I tell myself that I am lazy, I don’t try hard enough, and that I suck. I end up feeling pretty bad about myself and totally dissatisfied with my life. This big energetic hole forms in my stomach and I feel that I might disappear into it.
I ask him, “Do you want to feel this way, or do you want to feel better about yourself?”
It seems like a simple enough question, but how often do you give yourself this choice?
Do you even know that you have a choice?
I know that for a long time I did not recognize that I had one. I was a slave to my negative thoughts and it caused me to be very frustrated, dissatisfied and depressed. I would unintentionally choose to feel bad about myself.
Then I read the book “The Four Agreements” and it shifted everything for me. This book made me realize that I had a choice and I could shift my thinking, and the importance of how I talked to myself in my head. It started me on the path to where I am today.
Today, I always choose to feel better about myself.
The next question is: How do you do that?
Here are some real simple things to start with.
1. Make the choice to feel good about yourself. Set the intention and repeat it every day.
2. Recognize that although you can’t stop negative thoughts from entering your head, you can choose not to focus on them. When you notice that negative stream coming in intentionally shift your focus to something that feels good to you. Even if it means totally distracting yourself by watching cartoons.
3. Make a daily practice of starting off your day focusing on things that feel good to you and that you appreciate. Appreciate yourself, your friends, family, environment, pets, and anything else that makes you smile.
5. Celebrate every little thing that you do, no matter how big or small. Get in the habit of patting yourself on the back and telling yourself: “You Rock!” See your own greatness.
6. If you are unsatisfied with something, ask yourself: “What would make this better?” This allows you to move towards a solution rather than focusing on what you are unsatisfied with and helps to shift the bad feelings much faster.
These simple things can create big changes in your life if you commit to doing them. I’m not going to say that they are not hard work sometimes since the default tends to be to slip down the rabbit hole of feeling crappy. It takes conscious effort to remember to do these things, but the choice is always there.
Pick a few to try out and let me know what happens in the comments below.
