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Right about now, I start realizing that the New Year is right around the corner
and it might be a good time for setting some intentions around what I would like
to experience over the next 12 months.  I am a firm believer in consciously
telling the Universe what I want more of so that it knows what to send my way.

The reality is that we are always telling the Universe what we want, but usually
we are doing it in an unconscious manner.  I suggest that for the coming year
you make a commitment to doing it more consciously. You will be amazed at the results!
I feel that the best way to do this is by paying attention to what you are focusing
your attention on. If you want to be a super star at this, you will also do your
best to be conscious of what you are thinking about. Luckily, we have the ability
to control where we focus our attention, although I will be the first to admit that
it takes some effort and practice to do this.

When I go about setting intentions for the New Year, I take some time to reflect
on the past year.I find it easier to know where I want to go,
if I acknowledge where I have been.

Looking Back
As I look back over the past year, I take note of what has happened in my
business and personal life. I look at my relationships, money, my connection
to myself, and my health.
I ask myself these questions:
What has expanded?
Where have I grown?
What did not work for me?  (What would be better?)
What would I like to be different?
What am I feeling good about?
What do I want more of?
What can I let go of?

Stick to the Facts
If you choose to do this yourself, I highly recommend keeping focused on
the simple factual answers to the questions, rather than the story around
why something did not work, or how it stopped you from being happy or
successful. The story is just the story and will not help you in setting
your intentions for the New Year.

Re-Focus Your Attention
When you ask yourself “What did not work for me? “, write the answers down
and then leave space to answer this question: “ What would be better?” .   
When you answer the question “What would be better?” you are automatically
re-focusing your attention on what you DO want, rather than what you don’t want.
This re-focusing of your attention and energy is a powerful step in consciously
telling the Universe for what you want.

Amplifying the Energy
After I have finished reflecting on the past year, I take note of what I want
more of, what worked for me, and what would be better, and I imagine what it
would look like if I had all of those things in my life.

I play the Wouldn’t It Be Cool Game which goes something like this:

Wouldn’t it be cool if I had a long list of people who eagerly signed
up for all my classes and could not wait to work with me one-on-one so
that I could support them in really identifying the stories that stand in
the way of their success?
Wouldn’t it be cool if I discovered a cool, affordable, relaxed
space where I could hold workshops and events?

Usually, after asking myself these questions,I need a break. Some eggnog
seems like a good choice right about now! This is also the perfect time for
some fun and shenanigans.Once you are feeling refreshed you can get back to
creating your intentions.

To be continued………


energy waveThe most powerful way to create change and to bring more JUICY GOODNESS into your life is to practice appreciation.

When you appreciate anything, you are sending a strong signal to the Universe saying:I want more of this please.

Appreciation is a simple thing, but it tends to get lost in our busy day…or gets pushed out the way by a tendency to focus on what we do not like and what is not working.

So, I have created Amplification Friday to encourage you to take a moment out of your day and think about all the yummy and satisfying moments from your week.

It can be anything that you want more of…..it does not have to be something nice and sweet…it can be down right dirty…as long at it feels good to you and you want more of it in your life.( I often spend time appreciating my big black boots, and how fun it is to
go to the Kink Academy…and the fact that there even is a place like that.)

big-black-boots

I would certainly suggest appreciating the people in your life and all the things that you are wanting more of in the future.

It is also really cool to bask a bit in appreciation of yourself and how freaking awesome you are.

The more time you spend basking in the good feeling thoughts, the stronger you make that vibration…the more good stuff you attract back to you. ( That’s how this shit works.)

Remember that Pleasure = Juicy Goodness !

Once you identify the things you are appreciating, take few moments to really bask in the good feelings that they bring. By doing this you are amplifying the energy of them and sending a strong signal out into the Universe say “more of this Please!”

I invite you to share what you are appreciating below.


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Oct
16

What To Do When They Drive You F@%$ Crazy?

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We all have experienced this.

There is someone who you can’t stand and who drives you crazy in your personal or work life.

Every time you see them you bristle up and get aggravated. It is like they are purposefully trying to piss you off and you think they are totally full of shit. They do the same stupid stuff over and over again. You can’t believe that they act this way, and you feel powerless to change things.

These people come in many different disguises. Sometimes it is your boss or co-worker. Other times it hits close to home and is a family member…..maybe even your parents.

The thing they have in common is that they make part of your life suck, and you feel like you have to put up with it because of the place that they hold in your life.  (This situation could be describing your job or relationship too.)

So, what do you do about it?

How can you make it better?

I am going to tell you but you might not like it.

The best way to make this situation better is to spend some time focusing your attention on what you appreciate and like about the person…or job….or relationship.

I know this may sound crazy and maybe even impossible since this person really has no redeeming qualities, but try it anyway and see what happens.

Sit down and make a list of everything that you feel that person is good at, and what you appreciate about them. Maybe they are a snappy dresser, they always have your favorite candy on their desk, or they are a fun drunk.  Even if you are really stretching to find something, go ahead and make the effort to do it. The more positive aspects of this person, or situation, that you can find, the faster things will shift for you. You want to shift the energy by focusing on what feels good to you about this person or situation. Spend some time everyday focusing on this list of positive aspects to amplify the energy of it.

Next, take a step back and stop making them wrong for their behavior.  If someone does the same ‘shit’ over and over again it is more likely that that is just the way they do things, and if you stopped viewing it as wrong, you would be able to find a way make it work.  It is only “shit” because it is not the same way you do things.

Don’t you hate when someone makes you wrong for simply being you?  I think it sucks when someone does it to me.

You know what…it is all good.

Everyone is different.

The better you get at going with the flow and the faster you learn to stop making people wrong, the easier life will be. The fastest way to life sucking less is to learn to see people as they are without making them wrong, and learning how to adapt to different peoples styles of interacting and relating. The only behavior that you can really change is your own. You have 100% control over it. So, why not learn to adjust how you respond to stuff?

Ok…I know that this idea might get you riled up. If you are really having trouble with it, send me an email or give me a call and I can talk you through it.

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Oct
13

This Sucks! How do I make it better ?

Posted by: Leah | Comments (3)

Every subject is really two subjects: What you want and the absence of what you want.

Which one are you focusing on?

Most people find that it is easier to focus on whats absent, what is wrong and what needs to be fixed.

Why is that?

It seems easier to do because that is what you are used to doing.

It is your habit.

Just because it is your habit, does not mean it is the most effective way of creating a life that rocks.
It actually works against you.

By focusing on what is missing, you are giving lots of attention and energy to it. You are basically amplifying the energy of what you do not want and telling the Universe to give you more of it.

This is why when you focus on your problems they get bigger.

But,with a bit of effort, anyone can learn to shift their focus to what they want.

It is as simple as asking yourself “what would be better” when faced with an undesirable situation.

Or noticing what you appreciate about something.

This is especially powerful if you are currently experiencing something that sucks.

The best way to “make it better” is to make a list of everything you appreciate about the sucky situation/person/place/thing.

I know that this can be a bit of a stretch but go ahead and do it anyway.

You have to get the positive vibes flowing before anything good can happen.

Then focus on the solution.

Ask yourself how you want the situation to be.

“what would be better??”

This will not only shift your energy and  make you feel better in the moment, but it also creates space for something more desirable to show up.

Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.

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Sep
18

A Hedonist Adventure

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How to bring more juicy goodness into your life.

Many of the people that I work with feel like their lives suck in one way or another.

* they can’t stand their job
* feel overwhelmed in their business
* their relationship is stagnant,
*  they are just plain old bored and uninspired.

They are sick and tired of doing the same dull shit everyday.

They are tired of struggling to achieve the success that they know is out there…. somewhere…..waiting for them.
(they think it is)
They hope it is!

They are dying for some fun, meaning, and satisfaction in their lives.
Juicy Goodness! That’s what they want!

In order to get to the juicy goodness you need to start identifying what feels good to you  and what you want more of.

It is a big process of exploration. Curiosity is key!

I send my clients on a Hedonists Adventure. This adventure has two parts.
The first part is all about discovery.
Take note of all the things that are currently in your life that:
•    Feel good
•    Already work
•    You want more of
•    Makes you smile

The second part is all about exploration.

Go check out all the things that you think might interest you. Especially the things that you feel like you are not supposed to be interested in!  Read books, join groups, go new places, look on the web. Challenge yourself to push past your usual boundaries and take a peek into the world you were always curious about.
As you begin to explore these things, notice how it feels to you. If you get a big “Yes…I want more of this” go for it!  If you get “ No…not digging it so much” move on to something else. This adventure is all about discovering what feels good and increases your happiness.


This adventure is guaranteed to give you plenty of food for thought and to identify a few different things you might like to try on for size in your career and personal life.

How do your do that with out risking everything?

Most people are not in the position to quit their job and start all over. 
Life Experiments is the answer. Want to know more ??

Tune in to Defy the Box radio on Tuesday Sept 22 at 9 Pm and listen to Allan Bacon and I discuss how to try on different careers without quitting your day job.

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