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Ten Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life
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1. Commit to looking for the things that make you happy. Start making a daily kick-ass list. Write down everything that’s kick-ass and that you want more of.
2. Make your relationship with yourself and feeling good the most important thing. Take full responsibility for your own happiness and outcomes.
3. Spend time everyday focusing on what you want in your life. Picture yourself having it without worrying about how it’s going to get there. If you want more money- claim it! Don’t worry about HOW it’s going to show up, just picture yourself having it in your bank account…or under your mattress…. and imagine all the fun stuff you’ll do with it.
2. Create space to sit quietly and connect to your inner-freak every day. Listen to what it tells you. It knows the way to all that is juicy and fun.
3. Shake things up a bit on a regular basis to put yourself outside of your regular perspective. This will keep you from getting stuck in a rut. (I decided to go for my dream of being a Life Coach when I was at Burning Man.)
4. Tap into your curiosity and sense of wonder. Ask questions, dig deep, and let yourself be surprised.
5. Play more! Have fun! This will help you tap into the energy of your kick-ass life and attract more of it to you.
6. Explore all the things that interest you and try it on for size. Conduct your very own Life Experiments.
7. Don’t be a pussy!! Be bold and daring….take risks make up your own rules and do your own thing.
8. Stop worrying about offending people!! Not everyone is going to like you no matter what! What is most important is that YOU like you. Be true to yourself.
9. Give yourself permission to do all the things that you think you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do, but you really-really want to. Have no regrets!
10. Surround yourself with other kick-ass people who are doing cool things with their lives. Ditch the negative nancys, complainers, whiners, and the dream smashers.
Whats your favorite?
The Good,The Bad & The Shiny
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I’ve been engaging in a bunch of really cool conversations with other non-conforming entrepreneurs about the benefits and challenges of flying your freak flag in your biz. It’s been really fun to stir up this energy!
I think one of my favorite conversations so far was with a musician who wants to increase his business as a drumming instructor. Over the course of our conversation he shifted from being a bored drum instructor who taught basic rhythms and techniques to being a Soul Drummer who teaches people how to use their instrument as a spiritual practice. You could feel the expansion and excitement as he talked about his desire to do this work in the world. It became very clear what his freak flag looks like and who his right people are. Now it will be super easy for him to stand out and shine so his people will find him.
Flying your freak flag and really showing up in your biz ROCKS for a bunch of different reasons.
It feels good to be yourself and let people see who you are! It’s a hell of a lot less work than trying to fit in! Being real rocks!
It’s deeply rewarding to be able to put your own special twist on the work that you do. It feels kick-ass to be sharing your own unique perspective.
More money in your pocket! When you’re unique-you stand out and people remember you. This makes it really easy for the people that you want to work with to find you and hire you.
You get to spend your time doing what you love and get paid to do it!!! What’s better than that???
But there are some challenges to flying your freak flag in your biz too.
It can feel really scary! It takes courage to break-free of the pre-packaged way that people have been doing business and do things your own way.
It feels risky to put yourself out there and be unique. It goes against what most people are doing and what you’ve been taught, especially if you come from the corporate world!
It’s a leap of faith when you decide to really claim what you want to offer the world and to believe that people will want it. You have to trust that your right people will find you. You have to trust that the Universe is conspiring with you to create your Kick-Ass Biz.
You have to get over the fear of offending people. When you do things differently and stand out some folks won’t like it- I say “Fuck ’em!” Those aren’t your people and they were never going to buy from you anyway. The goal isn’t to get everyone to like you…it’s just not going to happen! I’m more interested in appealing to the right people…the ones who resonate with with who I am and what I have to offer. They won’t see you if you’re being all wussy and not flying your freak flag.
Everyone I spoke with agrees- It’s worth it! It feels totally Kick-Ass to unfurl your freak flag in your biz, be yourself, and do the work that you love with the people you enjoy doing it with.
It seems like the mainstream marketing people are beginning to come on over to the freak flag flying side now too. I’ve been seeing all kinds of marketing people talking about personal branding, and how you need to identify what you uniquely have to offer so you stand out from all the rest. That’s the same thing that I’ve been talking about for years!
Except, I also stress the added energetic boost that you get when you are being yourself, and feeling good in your biz. It makes you super shiny and attractive to the people who resonate with you. These are the people who are going to become your raving fans! When you’re trying to fit in and do things the “right and accepted way” you blend in and it’s hard for your people to find you.
If you want to learn more about flying your freak flag in your biz- sign up for this kick-ass f.r.e.e call – How Not Flying Your Freak Flag is Losing You Money.
Let’s get freaky!
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inner-freak as your super power
This week on My Kick-Ass Dream Life we’re gonna get freaky and talk about embracing your Inner-Freak. ( This show was postponed till Oct. 25th…please join us then!)
“What the hell is my inner-freak? Is this something sexual?”
Well…..it can be something sexual…but not necessarily.
Your Inner-Freak is your super power! This is where your magic lies.
It knows what you are really good at and what you will get the most satisfaction from.
It also knows what will make you happy and is always on the lookout for fun.
Your Inner-Freak is the part of you that is uniquely you and different from everyone else. It likes to put potato chips on your tuna fish sandwich, and wear glittery eye makeup and crystals on your forehead. It’s the part that likes to dress up in crazy costumes and frolic in the forest. It is the part that cries out for something more, and longs to go on grand adventures. It is the part of you that thinks it will be fun to go to Tuscany and do pottery for the summer, or quit your boring day job and become a yoga teacher in Peru.
The sad part is that most of us learned to ignore our Inner –Freak at a young age. Sometimes people didn’t respond to our ‘freakiness’ so well. We learned to hide it so that we could fit in and not be made fun of or bullied. We convinced ourselves that there was something wrong with our Inner-Freak and we learned tune it out and ignore it.
I will let you in on a secret……if you want to live a Kick-Ass Life; you need to become good friends with your Inner-Freak. It is your biggest asset.
Want to learn more about doing this? Tune in Monday-10/25 – at 3 PM EST and get in on the conversation. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2010/10/25/lets-get-freaky
The Price of Impatience
Posted by: | CommentsI thought it was a good idea at the time.
I was so excited to make things happen and create some big changes so that I could make a giant leap forward and step more firmly into my kick-ass dream life.
What I didn’t consider was that the three programs I signed up for to help me do just that were all going on at the same time.
I realized that I had made myself crazy busy and I started to spiral into overwhelm.
I have put myself into full time SUMMER SCHOOL!
What was I thinking?
I can tell you what I was thinking: I want my kick-ass dream life to show up RIGHT NOW !
I was getting impatient and feeling like things were not happening fast enough.
How many of you can relate to that ?
So, I decided to take some action that I felt would rocket me forward.
The problem is that I didn’t take the time to create a structure to support me in doing this. I did not step back and imagine what it would be like to be in these programs, and the time commitment and the workload. I didn’t focus on the outcome that I was looking for and create space for it to happen. I didn’t clear away the things in my life that were not in alignment with my stepping up in this big new way.
I didn’t set myself up for success in anyway and now I am paying the price.
Overwhelm!
Funny, Abraham-Hicks sent out a quote the other day that fits perfectly.
“Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You’re just not ready to receive it right now.”
These words ring true for me. I was not ready to receive what I had asked for.
I ask myself: “What needs to be released, or brought in to support you in stepping into your dream?”
One thing that needs to be brought in is a newly defined commitment to do this work, and to make it my #1 priority.
The next thing I did was re-evaluate how I was spending my time and decide if there were any things that are not serving me. There are a few groups and projects that I have decided to let go of because they are not really going anywhere. I also had to redefine my relationship with Plants vs. Zombies, (Sorry guys…I will only be coming around every now and then.) and my TV.
I did make the commitment to keep some space for fun, and not to burn myself out working 12 hour days. That just does not feel good and is so NOT part of my kick-ass dream life!
So we will see what happens.
The Overwhelm has left the building and I am beginning to feel the juicy goodness of everything expanding around me.
Oh yeah… that feels nice!
Fear is Soooooo Tricky……..
Posted by: | CommentsToday on Defy the Box Radio I talked about fear.
Strangely enough, I was fearful about doing the show…which is very unusual for me.
But this was the first time with the new show format and I was doing things in more of a questions and answer kind of way, with a bit of “spotlight” coaching thrown in. I was on my own with no co-host or guest to interview, and I was nervous about talking to myself and having to fill up all the space. It felt awkward and I was certainly having a hard time getting into my flow. Things shifted once I opened up the line and did some coaching……that feels so natural to me and I am in my flow when I am doing it.
I do think I am going to continue my quest to find a co-host if you think your might know someone.That will certainly help make it more fun for me……which usually translates to more fun for everyone. 
But I am rambling here…..lets get back to the topic of fear.
Fear is one of the main reasons that people hire me. They want to make some big changes in their lives and they are afraid to do it.
Fear is tricky…it shows up in all kinds of disguises.
Anxiety
Nervousness
Worry
Self-doubt
Resistance
Anger
Confusion
Jealousy
Excuses
Cluelessness ( is that even a word?)
Procrastination
Today fear showed up disguised as nervousness and confusion for me.
I was edgy, uncomfortable and my mind was feeling pretty blank. I admit it sucked, but I got through it.
So what is our fear trying to tell us…or do for us?
Seth Godin does an amazing job of breaking this all down in his book Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?
Originally, fears purpose was survival, but now it mostly keeps you from expanding into your highest potential.
Your fear response is one of the oldest parts of you. It comes from the part of your brain referred to as the “Lizard Brain”. It’s original purpose was to help you survive. Its goal is to keep you small and hidden so that you blend in and don’t get eaten! Your fear wants’ you to be part of the pack because you are more likely to survive. It is just trying to keep you alive!
But the reality is that we don’t need to worry about getting eaten anymore.
Funny how the idea of standing out from the crowd and being really seen in our full unique glory can inspire fear in the best of us. (It’s the Lizard Brain just doing its job.)
The cool thing is that humans have evolved to the point where we can focus our attention on creativity and living a meaningful life. We have more ability to focus on our own expansion.
I suspect that if you are reading this, you are focused on YOUR own expansion.
So now that we know what fear is…….what do you do about it?
I have an awesome 3 step process for kicking fear’s ass that I will share with you next time……..
