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What do You do When You Are Not a Planner or Goal Setter?
Posted by: | CommentsToday I had an awesome Kick-Ass Consultation with a really cool woman who told me that she is not big on liner thinking…and not much of a goal setter, so she is at a loss around how to change her life.
Isn’t that how you do it?
You set some goals and lay out a step by step plan for achieving those goals?
Boy…did this get me fired up!!!
Yes…that is exactly how SOME people go about successfully changing their lives.
But what about the rest of us who that does not work for?
I know that I’m not the only one who never had much luck with setting goals and laying out a structured plan to reach them.
To me it always seemed so limiting…and difficult to figure out ahead of time what steps that I needed to take in order to make something happen. That is not to say that I have never had success setting goals and laying out a plan, but the reality is that everything I ended up getting in that way, always turned out to be something that I did not really want in the long run. I was so focused on following the plan, I ignored all the signs that what I was pursuing really was not for me.
Can you relate to that too?
So what do you do????
I prefer a more organic method of manifestation that allows you to be in the flow and effortlessly creating your dream life.
It’s all about creating and connecting to a vision for your life, and then allowing it to naturally unfold before you. The results that I’ve had with this have been amazing. I’ve used this method to create my business, find my awesome home, my community, my truly delicious relationship and to have a totally kick-ass birthday celebration (You can read about that here).
The cool part about this approach is that it leaves plenty of space for fine tuning your vision. As things are unfolding, it is really easy to determine if it is what you want or not, and you can make any adjustments necessary. You also remove the stress and frustration that is often felt around trying to achieve your goals in a specific way. It opens things up and invites in more flow to your process.
The more I do this, the better I get at it. It becomes effortless. I learned some simple practices that help speed up the process. Now things show up for me as soon as I allow them to. I see the same results with my clients.
I can teach you how to do this too if you want me to.
Sign up for your very own Kick-Ass Consultation and we can discuss how we can work together to create your Kick-Ass Dream life too.
An Unconventional Way to Create Change
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you go about creating change in your life?
I think the most common approach is identifying what you think is “wrong” with your life, and then setting up a plan to “fix” it. You spend your time and energy trying to stop doing something.
For example, if you wanted to lose weight, you may decide to stop eating junk food, and to stop spending your time sitting on the couch watching TV.
The flaw that I see in this approach is that you are focusing your attention on what you can’t have.
I don’t know about you, but as soon as I decide I am not going to have something anymore, the more I start thinking about it and wanting it. It becomes all about denying myself something and my having the discipline not to do it, which does not usually work so well for me.
This approach is also built on the premise that there is something “wrong’ with you that you need to “fix”.
Energetically this is moving you in the wrong direction. The more you focus on what is “wrong” and needs to be “fixed”, the more of that you will get.
Let’s say you decide not to eat junk food, but then that is all you can think about, and you have a chip or two, and then you feel bad for eating the chips, which makes you want to eat more chips. The next thing you know you are feeling bad about yourself for not being able to stick to your plan and you start tuning out the bad feelings by watching TV.
Do you see where I am going with this?
I have another idea for you to try.
What if rather than looking at the stuff that you want to fix and change in your life, you decided to focus on what you want more of in your life ?
What if you focus on how you might add stuff into your day that feels good, rather than being focused on stopping a behavior, or taking something away?
What would that look like for you?
Let’s go back to the losing weight example. In order for this approach to work, you need to connect to the reason why you are doing something.
Let’s say that the reason that you want to lose weight is to feel healthier and more energetic. How could you add things into your day that would allow you to feel healthier and more energetic?
Perhaps you might add more greens into your diet every day, and you decide that going for a walk increases your energy so you add that into your day too.
Then you discover that getting 8 hours of sleep a night really feels good and increases your energy so you do that too.
Adding the greens into your diet increases your bodies desire for more good food, and going for a walk and getting more sleeps leaves you energized and feeling like doing more stuff. Next thing you know, you don’t crave junk food and sitting on the couch is not so appealing.
As you begin to add these things into your day, and you feel good about them, it empowers you to do more stuff that feels good. It is a much gentler way to treat yourself and it will bring you the results that you are looking for much faster.
It all comes down to this: What you focus on expands into your reality. When you focus on what is wrong, and needs to be fixed, you get more of that. When you focus on what you want more of, and what feels good and works for you , you get more of that.
What would you rather have more of?
try it out and let me know what happens!
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