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How to Dominate Your World
Posted by: | CommentsThe World Domination Summit was such an amazing event and I can’t seem to stop talking about it.
I was surrounded by 500 creative, inspired people who were all saying YES to their dreams and the idea of living a Kick-Ass Life. The speakers all shared their own personal stories of transformation and what it took for them to find their version of a deeply satisfying life. It felt deeply validating to hear the processes that I share with my clients reflected in their stories!
Here are some of the key points that I took away that you can embrace to help you dominate your own world.
1- Stop settling for an unsatisfying life! Claim the life that you want! You deserve it and can have it.
2. Focus on how you want to feel in the different aspects of your life. You don’t have to know exactly what you will be doing or how it is all going to happen. If you stay focused on how you want to feel in your life and look for the things that allow you to feel that way you will get much farther and discover many more opportunities for success.
3. Make a list of all the things that; you don’t like to do, waste your time, drain your energy and aren’t in your skill set and stop doing these things. Free your energy up to pursue your passions and honor your strengths.
4. Change your habits so that they support the life you want to live. Do this one habit at a time. Take small, manageable steps towards changing things. Do this in an easy gentle way and celebrate every little success.
5. Celebrate what makes you different. Own your unique talents and gifts. Have fun with your differences and allow them to help make you extra-ordinary. This is where your special magic lies!
6. Be at choice in all things. Even if you find yourself in a negative situation make it your choice to be there, or get out. As Danielle Laporte says “Love the Hell you’re in”. You are never a victim.
7. Stop setting big goals, but rather focus on what you are excited about doing each day, but if you must have a goal make it a feeling based goal. For example- Over the next 6 months I want to experience more freedom rather than saying in the next 6 months I’m going to quit my job and work for myself. Freedom comes in many forms. By setting the goal to find more freedom you are opening yourself up to many different possibilities.
8. Follow you heart not your head!
9. Stop asking friends, family and co-workers for advice about following your dreams. Only you know what is right and true for you. When you ask for other people opinions you invite all their fears, projections, and expectations into the conversation and that gets in the way of your making the right choice for you. If you need help making a decision an impartial outsider- like a coach – is a better choice.
10. Surround yourself with people who will say “YES” to your dreams and who will support you in living them. Open minded, supportive people are essential when you are going after your dreams. Find the people who will explore the possibilities and help you create opportunities to live the life that you want to live. They are out there…you just need to look for them.
How many of these key points are you living right now?
If you are struggling to embrace any of these points I can help. I invite you to set up a Kick-Ass Consultation to discuss how I can help you dominate your world.
How do I keep from falling back into my old way of being?
Posted by: | CommentsThis is a recent question that I received:
I am so ready to step into my authentic self and really embrace all that I desire, but I still feel part of myself resisting it.
Why is that??
If I can see who I want to be, what is stopping me from jumping in with both feet? Why do I find myself falling back into my old way of being and my ‘not-me’ behaviors?
This is a great question that many of my clients face.
The short answer: You need to commit to feeling things fully so that you no longer need those ‘not-me’ behaviors and old ways of being.
These behaviors and ways of being that you are trying to release are deeply ingrained in your ego and there is energy attached to them. You developed all the ‘not-me’ behavior in order to avoid feeling some kind of undesirable feeling. As children, our bodies are not equipped to run a lot of energy, and as a result, you got overwhelmed very easily. Typically, the folks around you can’t handle it, and you feel that, which enforces the idea that feeling those overwhelming feelings is undesirable, besides the fact that overwhelm does not feel good. So you begin to avoid feeling these energies at all costs.
Enter your EGO.
Your ego loves to identify everything and put a label on it so it knows what to expect. It gets really good at identifying any feeling that could potentially lead to overwhelm and creates all kinds of behaviors that keep you “safe” from these undesirable energies. In order to do this, a whole bunch of unconscious stories, beliefs and habits are developed that make up your perspective around how the world works, and who you need to be in order to survive in it.
What this all comes down to is that you are resisting feeling things fully.
Most of this stuff is unconscious and goes unexamined until you decide to make changes in your life.
Deciding to do the work to change your life is a conscious activity, especially if being truly authentic is your goal. Part of being conscious is to be fully present to what you are feeling…..which equals feeling things fully.
This is a major shift for many people.
The Ego convinces you that the intellect is king and it is all about thinking, where as your higher-self knows that all the information you need is right here in this moment for you to feel.
See the problem here?
If you are not committed to feeling things fully then you miss out on so much importnat information. You also fall back into these unconscious “not-me” behaviors and ways of being that are created to avoid feeling things fully.
The next question is: Won’t my head explode if I am feeling everything fully? Won’t I become overwhelmed?
The reality is that as we grow older and our bodies become fully developed we are totally capable of feeling everything and much, much more than we ever imagined. Your body is designed to be present in this wondrous and amazing world. You can feel and process everything you need to. The best part is, that as you allow yourself to really feel things fully, and experience all that there is for you to experience, it gets easier and easier to do. Your ability to feel and run energy expands. Next thing you know you are tapped right into your ever abundant flow and the world is your playground.
What do you think? Are you ready to jump in to your ever abundant flow?
