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Acceptance and Allowing
Posted by: | CommentsI’m going to wrap up Focus on Freedom month by talking about acceptance and allowing. If you make these two practices a way of life, you will have the freedom to be YOU, and you empower the people around you to do the same.
Acceptance means seeing yourself in your full freaky glory and being OK with it.
It’s accepting everything about yourself, even if you consider it to be a flaw, and embracing who you are rather than feeling like there is something wrong with you or you need to be different in order to measure up or make other people happy.
Acceptance means loving yourself and giving yourself the freedom to be YOU.
Allowing is what happens when you give yourself permission to be yourself, and you trust your instincts and intuition and allow yourself make the choices that you need to make too be happy.
This all applies to the way that you regard other people as well.
When you practice acceptance, you stay present and see who someone is, and you accept who they are. You don’t make them wrong or think you know what they should do.
You ALLOW them to be exactly who they are without trying to change them. You respect their choices and know that they know what is best for their life, just like you know for yours.
Allowing others to be who they are truly frees you up & releases everyone from expectations. It puts you in a place of choice rather than resistance. You are free to make your own choices pertaining to what you need to thrive and so are they.
Too often we project our expectations and fantasy’s onto other people and we don’t give them the freedom to be who they are. We don’t really see them. We create an image in our heads around who they’re supposed to be and are angry & disappointed when they don’t live up to our expectations. We resist the reality of who they are and we expect them to change to fit into our idea of who they should be.
Can you think of a time that someone did that to you?
How did it feel?
Being in a state of resistance feels bad to everyone involved and wastes a lot of energy. You are pushing against what is, and whenever you expect someone else, or something else, to change to suit you, you’re engaging in a losing battle.
This applies to situations too; like a job. It’s common to have expectations around how your boss and co-workers should act, or what your job is going to be like, and when things don’t live up to these ideas you make them wrong and engage in a lot of resistance. You think things should be different and you spend a lot of time complaining, being miserable and thinking things need to change. You’d be better served by accepting how things are and allowing it to be that way, then making the choice to stay there or not.
What it all comes back to the idea that true freedom lies in the ability to make choices and to be yourself. The more that you accept yourself and embrace all of who you are, the easier it will be for you to live a life full of meaning, happiness and satisfaction.
Doesn’t that sound very Kick-Ass?
There is an awesome 3 book set called The Four Agreements Toltec Wisdom Collection by Don Miguel Ruiz that really helped me understand these concepts and apply them to my life. I highly recommend reading it!
Tune into Your Inner-Guidance by Embracing Your Psychic Ability
Posted by: | CommentsTuning into your inner -guidance is necessary of you want to break free and start living a Kick-Ass Life ! It will show you the way to all kinds of awesomeness!
In order to help you tune into your inner-guidance I asked a fellow Defy the Boxer 
and Kick-Ass Creator -Lisa the Punk Rock Psychic – to come talk about embracing your intuition/psychic ability in order to know what is right for you.
We discuss how to access your inner-guidance and strengthen your connection to it, the practical uses of intuition-like finding parking spaces to getting ideas for projects, and how to use intuition to get unstuck. We also talk about how the clair’s work (our psychic senses that are simply psychic replicas of our physical ones), and some simple psychic tools like oracle card decks and how to get messages in a way that works for you.
You can listen to the 60 minute interview by clicking here-
You can learn more about Lisa here- http://punkrockpsychic.com/about/
This show is hosted by Leah Shapiro- the Kick-Ass Life Coach at Defy the Box . Leah helps spiritual, creative, non-conforming souls embrace what makes them unique and different in order to create the Kick-Ass Life of their dreams.
How do you know if your fear is helping you or holding you back?
Posted by: | CommentsI was reading a blog post by Jonathan Fields the other day that talked about the discomfort of growing and expanding into the unknown, and being willing to be vulnerable and facing the fear and discomfort because he knows that he will be stepping more fully into himself on the other side.
It sounds like he is stepping more fully into his kick-ass dream life to me!
An interesting question came up in the comments of this post:
How do you discern the difference between the fear of moving forward into the new unfamiliar-yet-appropriate direction and the fear that’s trying to tell you, no, this isn’t right for you. I sometimes have a lot of difficulty telling these two fears apart and they often seem to be disguised as one another.
This question got me thinking……
How do you tell the difference?
On the surface they may appear to be the same thing, but if you take a real close look at them you can detect some differences between the two. They feel different in your body and you will find that the way it shows up in your inner dialogue will be different. Once you dig down into it, you will discover that they are rooted in two completely different places.
To me, the fear of moving forward into an unfamiliar- yet appropriate direction seems more ego driven, where as the fear that is trying to tell you that you are heading in the wrong direction is more intuition based.
The question is which one do you take more stock in?
I always trust my intuition. My ego is often full of shit so I like question what it is telling me
For example, when I examine it closely I see that my fear around moving into unfamiliar-yet appropriate territory is really more about the outcome or results. I feel it more in my head and neck. I am not sure what to do or expect, and I don’t want to make a mistake, or look stupid. Once I get clear about what I am really afraid of, it is so much easier for me to move through it.
On the other hand, if my fear is my intuition telling me I am heading in the wrong direction, I feel it in my core and have a sense of being held back. I am unsure if I should move forward, and find myself very unwilling to take action. I am dragging my feet. I find that it is best to wait a while and gather more information, or test the waters very slowly.
In my mind, the best way to deal with fear is to meet it head on and get up close and personal with it.
The thing is that most people do not want to cozy up and get intimate with their fear. They’d rather look at it from across the room or ignore it completely. That is why it has so much power over you!
If you want to grow and expand more fully into yourself and your kick-ass dream life, you are going to have to learn how to deal with your fear, and to get familiar with what it’s trying to tell you. It is your unexamined fear that has power over you. You need to stand up to it and look down deep into the depth of it to see what is really going on for you if you want any chance of effectively moving forward. This involves self-inquiry and being willing to sit with the discomfort that you are feeling.
I would love to hear your thoughts about dealing with your fear in the comments down below.
If fear is something that you struggle with, my new e-book The 3 Steps to Kicking Fear’s Ass can help! I break down my 3 steps for moving through your fear and provide you with all the tools you need to dig down deep into your fear and see what is really going on. I also tell you how to replace your fear with something that will help you propel you forward towards your kick-ass dream. You can learn more here.
