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Unfurl that Freak Flag!!
Posted by: | CommentsContrary to what you may think, your freak flag doesn’t have to be anything crazy, unless crazy is your thing!
Flying your freak flag is more about showing up fully and not being afraid to show the world who you are and what’s important to you. It’s about taking a stand and having an opinion and not being afraid to share and wave it about.
Flying your freak flag gives you the freedom to be who you are. No more hiding, making sure you say the right thing, and doing things the right way. That takes way to much energy-energy that you could use having fun and doing things that interest you.
I know- it’s scary to show up fully and wave your freak flag! You never know how people will react to it. People get offended so easily, but that’s not your problem.
Seriously…it’s not!!
You can’t control how people react to you and your opinions. Their reaction is not about you at all and is all about them. Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. So stop worrying about it. Be yourself; let the world see who you are; and live a kick-ass life.
One cool thing about flying your freak flag is that it makes it really easy for the people who resonate with your opinions and what you offer to find you. When everyone one is trying to fit-in and not offend anyone it’s impossible to know what someone stands for and who they are. It’s impossible to make a real connection with someone because there is nothing to grab onto. I think about it as one big beige blur….nothing stands out and catches your eye. You have to look really hard to determine what differentiate one person/ service provider from another.
Do you want to be part of the big beige blur or do you want to stand out and shine so your people can find you?
Here’s a fun exercise-Create your own freak flag!
Think about what you would put on an actual flag that would represent who you are and what you stand for. It could be anything. Think about the things that are meaningful to you that you would like to bring more of into your life.
My amazing and talented boyfriend made his own freak flag a few months ago.
Here is a picture of it- Pretty cool huh?
What do you think it says about him?
I’ve been playing with this idea for a while. I’d put a mermaid, with wild blue and purple hair and a corset on with a big vortex of creation swirling around her. She would be a wild child mermaid who manifests everything she desires. Teeheeha!
Play around with this idea for a while and let me know what you come up with. If you make one…send me a picture!!!!! I’d love to see it.
How to Stay Focused on Your Kick-Ass Life
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I don’t know about you, but I’m finding it really challenging to stay focused on how Kick-Ass my life actually is, when I’m being bombarded with all the fearful messages that are flying around in the media lately. I understand that we are facing some big challenges, and things are shifting and changing quickly, but to tell you the truth—This is a good thing!
It is pretty obvious that the way we have been living is deeply unsatisfying for a lot of people…….that’s why you’re here, right? The status quo isn’t working for you and you want to live a more meaningful, fun, satisfying life.
I think this desire runs deep in all human beings and in order to shift things for the highest good of all mankind, we need to shake things up and do things differently, and that is exactly what I feel is happening right now. People are feeling the pressure to take action to make their lives better, the time for tolerating oppression and all the shit that is not in alignment with your inner being is over. People everywhere are questioning archaic oppressive structures and empowering themselves to take action, it’s a beautiful thing really.
I’m of the opinion that now more than ever the world needs people who are tuned into their purpose and sharing what only they can share with the world. YOU have a unique perspective and piece of the puzzle and now IS the time to bring it forward. The world needs what you have to offer!!!! Believe that!
So how do you not get bogged down in fear and worry with all the turmoil that is happening? The trick is to stay focused and centered in your truth, and to keep moving towards how you want your life to be. It is common to hunker down in times like these, but now is the perfect time to keep moving forward and heading towards your dreams.
Even if society as we know it shifts and changes, you can still live a Kick-Ass Life. (If your thinking that going after your Kick-Ass Life is a selfish or foolish endeavor when things are so uncertain, then we need to talk about the importance of living your purpose and how to bust through that fear.)
Here are a few things that you can do to keep from getting bogged down in the drama and paralyzed by fear and worry.
1. Stop watching the news!!! Or at least take it in very small doses from non-hysterical sources. 6 hours of CNN a day is not helpful, and don’t get me started on Fox News! The media is trying to influence you to conform to their way of thinking. They want you to be afraid and to feel powerless. It makes you much easier to manipulate.
2. Have a daily practice to connect with your heart and center yourself on a daily basis. Mediation is good, a quiet walk without the headphones blaring, some plain old quiet time to sit for a minute and relax. Do whatever you need to be quiet ad slow down so you can actually here yourself think, and connect to what your heart is asking for.
3. Look for things that are Kick-Ass. Spend time everyday appreciating your life. Notice the beautiful flowers, feel the warm sun on your skin and bask in the juicy good feeling of these things. The Daily Kick-Ass List is something that I created to help my clients with this. I have included it in the Leah recommends section below.
4. Focus your attention on what you DO want to happen. Don’t get caught up in the drama of bitching, moaning, and complaining about how sucky things are. The more you talk about the things that aren’t working for you the more energy that you are giving to them. If you only do one thing from this list-Do this- Learn to focus your attention from what you don’t like to what you do want. Your focus and attention is something that you can actually control. Shift your attention to what you want to see happen and look for solutions to the problems rather than just getting pissed off, worried, or talking about how stupid the Senate is being to everyone you know on FB.
5. Look for evidence of your abundance! I know right now people are worried about $$$$. Make a habit of looking for evidence of your abundance. Things like- “Hey-I found a penny!”, “My friend fed me a wonderful meal!” and “In this moment I have everything I need” go a long way to boosting your ability to attract more abundance into your life. I like to meditate on these thoughts- “ The Universe prospers me” and “ The Universe provides me with everything that I need, life is good.”
6. Focus on the things that make your life meaningful, and that you are interested in and do more of them!!!! Do I need to say anymore about this?
7. Talk about your dreams and how you want to feel in your life. The more time you spend basking in this juicy energythe bigger it will become, and the stronger the signal is that you will be sending out into the Universe. Imagine how powerful it would be if everyone in the world did this? WoowZza!!!
Pick a few of these tips out and give them a whirl, then take a minute to let me know how they are working for you.
As always, I love to hear what is going on in that head of yours, so share your thoughts in the comments below.
Heartache, Hardship and Freedom
Posted by: | CommentsLet’s face it-We all have stories that keep us stuck in crappy situations that clearly aren’t part of our Kick-Ass Lives!
These stories run deep and often times we don’t even notice them because they’ve been part of our belief system for so long. They steal our freedom to choose and we end up feeling powerless to change a crappy situation because we think that’s just the way it is.
Here is an example of one such story that I was carrying around that caused me a lot of heartache and dissatisfaction in my romantic life.
When I was small I had extravagant taste- I still do- and for as long as I can remember my Mom and Nana would tell me that I needed to marry a rich man to buy the things that I wanted for me.
This idea did not work for me. Even as a child, I was super independent and didn’t want to depend on anyone for anything! I declared that I was going to be rich myself and men were going to want me for my money. I would re-tell this story over and over again throughout my life.
Guess what happened?
I had a series of boyfriends who didn’t have any money and who relied on me to support us or wanted me to take care of them. The more I did this and bought into the story that I was going to be the bread winner and have to take care of them, the worse it got.
This situation felt really crappy and so wasn’t part of my Kick-Ass Life, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I was so caught up in my story I thought that this was just the way my relationships were supposed to be.
Luckily, I had a great coach who helped me see this story and change it.
I set myself free to re-write my story to say “I am surrounded by prosperity and helpful supportive men”. Now I’m in a deeply satisfying relationship with someone who is good with money, takes good care of himself, and loves to take care of me when I let him.
Here’s another example from a client -
A few days ago I had an inspiring conversation with Leah. She listened quietly while I talked about my life. After a bit she pointed out a comment I made as a child about overcoming hardships. She asked if I realized that this was a contract/story to overcome hardships in my life. I have continued to create them to overcome. The time I spent speaking with Leah helped to open the doors to hear those comments again. There is a profound difference in my daily activities, awareness and thinking about my life. I have overcome those hardships and do not need to create them anymore. Thank you Leah for your insight and willingness to listen through my story.
Thank you again. I am amazed at how aware I am now in regards to the thoughts that run through my mind. The level of awareness has a different meaning or understanding than before.
Bless you.
Rev. Connie Kirkpatrick
Spiritual Life Coach
Are you beginning to see how your stories effect your life?
What unsatisfying situations are you wanting to explore to identify the stories that are keeping you stuck?
If you want help identifying the stories that hold you back set up a Kick-Ass Consultation to discuss how we might work together to do this.
A bit of morning basking
Posted by: | CommentsYesterday was one of those amazing days when I’m really able to feel how Kick-Ass my life is.
I had to go get my car serviced and it required me to venture out onto the rush hour traffic at 7:30 AM , which is something that I rarely do. Traffic was backed up everywhere I went, with people blocking intersections and cutting each other off. (I DO live in Boston, and we’re not known for being nice drivers). It made me think how much it would suck to have to do this every day!
I big wave of appreciation swept over me and I could feel an amazing sense of joy swelling inside of me. I have successfully created my life to honor my ‘Yes’. I don’t have to do anything that I don’t want to do. My life is perfectly designed to suit me. Sometimes I have no idea how I am going to achieve something, or where the money is going to show up from, but it always works out. Every time I get exactly what I need to expand further in to who I really am.
Boy does that feel good!!!
I basked in those good feelings all the way to the Mazda dealership.
You know what?
I can teach YOU how to design your life to be Kick-Ass too.
Start Looking For what Feels Good!
Posted by: | CommentsI am fresh back from an awesome long weekend spent engaging in pleasurable pursuits and I am really looking forward to doing My Kick-Ass Dream Life this afternoon at 3 PM EST. We are going to be continuing the conversation around some of my favorite subjects- owning pleasure and committing to feeling good.
Last week on the show we had a fantastic discussion about the importance of making a commitment to feeling good and understanding your relationship to pleasure. It all comes down to this- a Kick-Ass Life= Feeling Good. We want you to CLAIM your right to feel good in your life and commit to doing it by making it your top priority.
So why is this commitment so difficult to make?
It seems like so many people are committed to seeing all their own flaws and where things aren’t working for them but they get stuck around making a commitment to feeling good and noticing all the things that are awesome about themselves and their lives. It somehow seems easier to keep yourself small and insignificant than look for your greatness.
How do you empower yourself to let the goodness in and give yourself permission to feel good?
Last week on MKADL we talked about the first step- Claim it for yourself and give yourself permission to feel good and enjoy pleasure.
This week we will discuss the second step-Start looking for all the things that feel good to you, give you pleasure, and what you want more of. It is all there right in front of you waiting to be discovered. The thing is that we are not really taught to look for it. We are taught to look for the potential problems, and what isn’t working, and what you don’t like. Aren’t those things easy to find!
Interestingly enough, there are plenty of awesome, amazing things that feel good for you to find as well, once you shift your focus and start looking for them.
Try it! Make the commitment to look for the things that feel good to you for 1 week and let me know what happens in the comments below!
Want to listen to the show? Click this link and you can listen in: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2010/11/29/nothing-is-more-important-than-that-i-feel-good-start-looking-for-it-1
