Archive for limiting beliefs
2012 is Shaking Things Up Already
Posted by: | CommentsI can’t believe that it’s less than three weeks till we welcome in 2012!!
I’m excited about 2012, are you?
I’m excited by all the shifts and changes that are happening in the world. I believe that this is what 2012 is all about. The shifting into a new level of expansion where we take a stand for what we believe in and what is important to us. We’ll ditch the status quo and tune into a new way of living and relating that honors the individual and what each of us has to offer.
I’ve felt this shift coming for a long time now. I’ve felt it in your unwillingness to be a cog in the system and your desire to do meaningful work and heal yourself, each other and the planet.
I feel now it in the dissatisfaction with the government, unequal distribution of wealth and dysfunctional justice systems throughout the world.
I feel it in the underlying desire for MORE that I hear expressed by my clients. More connection, meaning, abundance, joy, peace……the list goes on and on. This strong desire for more will not go unanswered! The opportunities are there for each of us.
I’m wondering how this shift is showing up for you? What are you questioning and wanting more of?
On a personal level, I’ve been feeling the shattering of some old stories that I’ve been subconsciously holding onto, and it’s opened the way for some major expansion!
I’m embarrassed to admit too some of these stories…but I will share them with you anyway.
One story said nobody really wanted me around nor did they care what I had to say. Another one told me I didn’t fit in with the cool kids.
Both of these stories are just plain crazy!
When I pay attention to my life, I see proof that they are not true, but deep down inside I was buying into these old stories and they were holding me back. Here are a few examples – I noticed that I was holding back in social situations and feeling like I didn’t fit in around other powerful, successful business women. I was looking for the ways I didn’t fit in rather than all the ways we could be friends. WTF!??
I also wouldn’t call friends up and pursue spending time together last minute because I figured everyone already had plans and they didn’t invite me. Poor me!!! No body likes me!!!
Seriously???!!??
I’m glad I cleared that shit out!!!
I’m enjoying my friends so much more and connecting with tons of cool business men and women that I’m looking forward to collaborating with in 2012.
Are you experiencing all the internal questioning that this shift brings with it? Share what you are releasing and expanding into in the comments below!
Focusing on Freedom While Being a Slacker
Posted by: | CommentsOk, I admit it- I’ve been being a total slacker the past few weeks. I’ve had so many fun things going on that I’ve been having a hard time focusing on work. I’ve been too busy taking off to the country and chillaxin!
Hanging with the Ladies
Can you blame me? It’s Summer time and I’ve been taking advantage of the freedom and flexibility that I’ve built into my life. This freedom is important to me. I like to be in charge of my own schedule and choose when I want to work and when I want to play. Being able to make choices like this is a big part of what makes my life Kick-Ass.
For me, a Kick-Ass Life is all about freedom; the freedom to choose what I want in my life and the freedom to be 100% ME in my full freaky glory.
What does freedom mean to you in your life?
Focusing on Freedom
When I am focusing on work, I’m focusing on freedom.
I’ve been engaging in a deep conversation about freedom and what prevents you from having it with all the awesome subscribers to my Kick-Ass List.
It’s pretty clear to me that the only thing standing between any of us and the Kick-Ass Life of our dreams is the stories we tell ourselves that say we can’t have it. The problem is that these stories are so imbedded into our subconscious we don’t question them. We end up believing that they are true even thought they make us feel bad about ourselves and limit what is possible in our lives.
It’s my mission to help you uncover these stories and question them so you can set yourself free and start living your Kick-Ass Life. I love witnessing the shift that happens in my client’s lives once they identify the stories that have been holding them back, and how quickly things change once they stop believing them. It’s a beautiful thing to see!
If you feel like you can benefit from some of this work let me know. I”d love the opportunity to help you set yourself free so that you can begin choosing what you want in your Kick-Ass Life.
I feel like it’s time to dive in and put together a series of cool free classes and some new ways to work together. Due to popular demand, I’ll be kicking things off by talking about how to connect to your version of a Kick-Ass Life sometime in August.
I’m also working on putting together a few resources for you to help you create a Kick-Ass Life of your own.
My Kick-Ass Dream Life
I can’t forget to mention the awesome new episode of the podcast-My Kick-Ass Dream Life -that we recently did. It’s called Weird, Spiritual and Totally Booked: 3 Simple and Time Effective Facebook Strategies to Attract More Clients to Your Out of the Box Business
My new friend Paul Zelizer is my guest and he shows you how to talk about your out of the box spiritual business in a way that easily attracts your right people to you. We had a wonderful conversation about owning your talents and flying your freak flag so that your right people can easily find you. Paul’s ideas are in perfect alignment with the stuff that I talk about with my coaching clients when it comes to creating a Kick-Ass Life. Paul applies these same ideas to filling your Kick-Ass business. I encourage you to click on over to the podcast page and give Weird, Spiritual and Totally Booked a listen. There’s lots of juicy bits to pick up on.
Her Unfolding Journey
While I’m talking about podcasts I want to mention that I was a guest on Mark Semple’s podcast/show called Her Unfolding Journey. I shared a bit about my unfolding journey and we had a great conversation about living a Kick-Ass Life and flying your freak flag. It was a blast to share space with Mark like this! You can listen to the recording here.
That’s it for now!
I hope you have a Kick-Ass day!
Real Freedom Comes When You Stop Lying to Yourself
Posted by: | CommentsOK, it’s time for some straight talk from my heart –
Stop lying to yourself and buying into these self-defeating stories that convince you that you can’t live a Kick-Ass Life!
You know the ones I’m talking about! The story that says you have nothing to offer anyone and that’s why you don’t have the social life you desire, or you’re too fat and no one wants to date you so you better settle for whatever comes your way. Perhaps it says that if you let your real self shine through no one will like you, or there is no way you can make a living doing what you love. Maybe it’s the worse one of them all- there is something wrong with you because you’re different.
Some people call these stories limiting beliefs, the shitty committee, or your inner mean girl; I call them a pack of lies! They keep you from living your Kick-Ass Life and it’s a shame!
These lies are pure evil and they steal your freedom away from you. Well…maybe I’m being a bit dramatic here. There’s nothing evil about them really, but when we believe these lies we give up our freedom to choose how we want to live.
Believe me when I say these stories are not true! All they are doing is holding you back and preventing you from living your Kick-Ass Life. As long as you believe these lies you will stay trapped in the prison of an unsatisfying life.
It’s time to stop buying into these lies once and for all and set yourself free to live the Kick-Ass Life that you deserve!
The trick is to learn how to identify when you are caught up in these stories and lies so you can make the choice to ditch them.
Awareness is key!
Once you become aware of your stories you can begin to set yourself free by questioning them and choosing what is true for you.
For most of us these stories and lies have become so deeply ingrained into our lives we don’t even notice them. We just think that’s the way it is. This is why having an outside perspective- like a coach- makes it so much easier to break free.
Here is what can happen for you when you do stop lying to yourself:
A 30 something year old, divorced mom with a successful career thought she was a failure when it came to her personal life. She was yearning for more meaningful relationships and deeper connections. After a few sessions working together she realized that she had created a complex story that said she had nothing to offer people outside of work, she didn’t really have time for relationships, and no one wanted to spend time with her. She stopped buying into these stories and within the space of a few weeks everything had changed…like magic! I was thrilled to receive this email from her-
“This is nuts! Is it possible that all I had to do was recognize and try to stop the lies I’ve been telling myself??? My calendar is filling up, people are calling me to do things… How does this just happen?”
Here’s another example:
A 30 year old guy was working an unsatisfying managerial position which left him feeling depleted and unable to pursue his real passion-music. He was burnt out and feeling trapped, and needed some help climbing out of the rut he was in. After working together it became clear that he was buying into story that said you need a real job to be a responsible adult and you can’t make a living as a musician. Then he decided to stop lying to himself and began to entertain the idea that he could make a living as a musician. He decided to pursue a few opportunities that were always there, but he couldn’t see them before because he was so busy believing the lie he was telling himself. Within six months he was living in a new city and supporting himself as a musician! He had more opportunities then he knew what to do with.
You can experience freedom like this too!
Start paying attention to the places in your life that don’t feel good to you and where you are holding yourself back from living your dreams. See if you can identify the stories you are telling yourself that keep you stuck in a sucky situation and keep you playing small.Question these stories and open up to the possibility that they are wrong.
If you want to blast through this process quickly and painlessly let me help you.
My super power is seeing where you are caught up in your stories and holding yourself back. I can help you identify your stories and put an end to the lies once and for all. You can set yourself free to get on with the business of living your Kick-Ass Life.
I invite you to contact me to set up a Kick-Ass Consultation if you want to explore how we might work together to do this.
What’s YOUR Game? What do YOU Do?
Posted by: | CommentsThis morning I was catching up on my blog reading and I came across this challenge put forth by IttyBiz.
Since I am fairly caffeinated and need somewhere for all this energy to go, I figured “What the Hell…I’ll play along”. (The suggestion of cake as a reward when you are done certainly helped fuel my desire too.)
So here we go!
What’s your game? What do you do?
I help unconventional, non-conforming souls, like you, identify the ‘pre-packaged beliefs’ that are standing between you and your living your kick-ass dream life.
I have an uncanny ability to see the hidden patterns in people’s behavior and stories about their lives. I can hear the conflicts between what you want and your ‘stories’ about how the world works and what is possible for you. I like to go deep and explore what is underneath the surface….this must be the mermaid in me…..and I have never been afraid to question people about these things and call out what I see.
It leads to a lot of “ah-ha” moments for my clients.
Once we identify these beliefs we re-write them so that they support you in living your kick-ass life right now.
Why do you do it? Do you love it, or do you just have one of those creepy knacks?
I love this question!
I do it because I can’t help myself! (Ask my boyfriend…. it drives him crazy!!)
I truly believe that we all have the ability to live our own version of a kick-ass life. It’s my mission to help you do that if you want it.
Who are your customers? What kind of people would need or want what you offer?
This questions is tricky because I work with so many different kinds of people….but that said, I believe that I work best with people who have these things in common:
- You are non-conformists and don’t really care about fitting in.
- What you do care about is living a life that gives you the freedom and flexibility to be your ‘freaky’ self and you want to support yourself in a way that feels meaningful and satisfying.
- You feel that you have something bigger to offer the world than what you have been doing up till now, and you want help bringing that forward in your life in a way that feels good.
- You are looking for someone who accepts your unconventional lifestyle choices and ideas and supports you in going for your wild and crazy dream.
(When I say non-conforming and unconventional, I am talking about being someone who is making choices to live life outside of the mainstream mentality. For example; You are poly, you hang out at BDSM clubs, you live for Burning Man each year, you are pagan, you love kink, the idea of living a vanilla life makes you crazy!)
What’s your marketing USP? Why should I buy from you instead of the other losers?
You should buy from me because I get you. I am a ‘freak’ too. I won’t judge you, and I understand what it is like to be constantly having to blaze your own trail.
I understand how being a non-conforming soul puts you in an interesting position of knowing that you don’t want what the mainstream is promoting, but you have no idea how to make what you do want happen.
I am also fun, I will call you out on your shit, and I encourage you to discover what feels right to you.
What’s next for you? What’s the big plan?
I have all kinds of big plans!
Over the next few moths I’m committed to making my blog totally kick-ass and inviting all of you to subscribe to my list.
I will be offering a series of free classes aimed at enticing you to join the Defy the Box Sphere that will help you create the KICK-ASS Life that you dream about.
The first class up is The 5 Steps to Creating Your Kick-Ass Life you can get more info here.
I will also be doing a call about Flying Your Freak Flag High and Proud, and How to Kick-Fears Ass When it Gets in the Way of Your Living Your Dream Life.
This will all be topped off by the opportunity for some of you to participate on my group program happening in January called A Crash Course in Creating Your Kick-Ass Life. This intensive program will teach you everything you need to know to create the life of your dreams in a naturally unfolding way.
I also am working on getting My Kick-Ass Dream Life, my online radio show, out to a much bigger audience. I want to get up to 1,000 weekly listener in the next 6 months.
Whew! This was fun! Now I need to find some cake to eat!
If this inspired you to sign up for my list, you can do that here.
What stands in the way of you living your kick-ass dream life?
Posted by: | CommentsIf you could create your kick-ass dream life, what would it look like ?
What would you spend your days doing?
Who would you hang out with?
Where would you live?
What would the weather be like?
How would you feel when you wake up in the morning?
How would you feel when you go to bed at night?
What is stopping you from living this dream right now?
What stands in your way?
I suspect that many of you think it is the money, other responsibilities (family/kids), where you live, or a number of other circumstances that stand in the way of you living your dream life. But I am here to tell you that you are wrong.
What is keeping you from living a life that totally rocks right now is your stories about who you are and what is possible for you. We all have them. They are commonly called limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained in our subconscious mind and determine what we even try to do with our lives. They keep us small and prevent us from going after our big dreams.
Your Limiting beliefs are behind that voice in your head that says:
” You can’t do that.”
“Who do you think you are?”
“What are you crazy?”
“This is just the way the world works”
These beliefs keep you small and tightly packed into that box that society wants you to live inside of.
The interesting thing is that most of these beliefs are not really true at all. They are just some story that you bought into somewhere along the way (just like everyone else). I suspect that if you begin to question them you will see how quickly they fall apart.
The reality is that each of us can be, do and have anything that our hearts desire. There is no limit to what is possible when you sent your mind to it. The trick is that you have to believe that it is possible before you can allow it to unfold for you.
I am curious about where in your life you are not allowing yourself to go for what you really want because you don’t think that you can have it?
Where are you allowing yourself to sit in a place that is feels sucky because you think that is “just the way it has to be” ?
If you are interested in doing something about these limiting beliefs, you can sign up for a free 3o minute Breakthrough Session. During this session I will help you to uncover exactly what is standing in the way and what you can do about it.
If this sounds good, shoot me an email here and someone will get back to you as soon as possible.
