Archive for pre-packaged beliefs
Why All This Sex Talk ?
Posted by: | CommentsIf you have been following Defy the Box radio, you will see that sex and sexuality is a big topic for discussion there right now.A few folks have been asking why I feel it is important to talk about this in the context of my business.
This is the basis of what I am hearing: “Isn’t sexuality a bit personal??? You are not supposed to bring it into your business! It gives the wrong impression!”
This is exactly WHY I find it important to talk about sexuality.
In my mind, sex and sexuality are the one of the main areas where people are confined by their pre-packaged beliefs and stories around what is “right and wrong” and “good and bad”. It is topic that can easily create low vibrational feelings of doubt, shame,fear and guilt. When the reality is, when I am fully accepting and embracing my sexuality, it leads to the most amazing feelings of joy,bliss and expansion that I have ever known. To me there is lots of personal power there.
I remember when I was about 8 years old. I was just begining to really discover my body and how good it could make me feel. My family was not religious, but I liked to go to church with my friend and sing during the service with her. I remember one sermon in particular that said that the feelings I was having in my body were evil and bad and I should not touch myself or even think about that. I could not believe what I was hearing ! It was confusing and scary. I did not want to be evil, but I also somehow knew in my heart that my natural feeling were OK. So I did not let that stop me from enjoying myself.
For many people, this is not the case. They begin to doubt themselves and their natural feelings and urges, and make themselves wrong for having them.In my mind, this is one of the worse things you can do. You are basically tuning out your inner-guidance system…or as I like to say..you are tuning out your Inner-Freak. You begin to ignore the part of you that knows what feels good to you, and what will bring you the most joy and bliss. This does not only apply to your sexuality, it applies to all areas of your life. Your Inner-Freak knows what makes you special and unique in all areas of your life. It is what makes you stand out from the crowd in all your brilliant juicy goodness. It is where your true magic and power lies. Once you begin to shut it out, you lose touch with it and it gets harder and harder to access.
I also find that when you are constantly ignoring your desires and making them wrong,weather we are talking about a sexual desire or a desire for something in your life, it makes you feel bad about yourself. Like there is some dirty little secret that must stay hidden no matter what the cost. This takes up so much energy that could be used for something else, like creating a life that ROCKS!
Let me assure you, that most people have something about themselves that they feel needs to stay hidden because it is so flawed that no one will want them after they see it. I am quit certain that if you feel good about it, then you will attract other folks who feel good about it too. if you feel bad and shameful about it, you will attract other folks who will make you feel bad and shameful about it too.
Its your world. You attract people and things into it based on your feelings and thoughts about things. If you fully embrace and feel good about who you are and what you desire, then you will attract people and things that reflect that back to you.
If you embrace and accept your Inner-Freak, you will find your true magic and power!
If you are curious to explore authentic sexuality, Join us on Tuesday night, 8/25, at 9 PM EST on Defy the Box radio. My guest is Kali from the Kink Academy and we will be discussing the importance of embracing all parts of your kinky bad-ass self. http://www.DefytheBox.com/defy-the-box-radio
Your Story: Love It or Ditch It !
Posted by: | CommentsOne of my superstar clients came to me wanting support in building her business. She had reached a point where she felt bogged down and the joy was going out out of it for her. It was begining to feel a lot like WORK! Work she did not want to do. She found herself doing things she did not enjoy because she thought she “had to” do them.
Once we dug down into it, I uncovered a story that she was carrying that said in order to be successful in business, you had to be very serious and work hard. She had to MAKE everything happen and figure it all out. She was following a plan of action that did not feel very good to her.
Now, this superstar is a fun loving gal. Part of the reason she started her own business was so that she could enjoy herself and have the freedom to do what she wanted. As we explored the different stories she held about what success meant and looked like, and how you got there, it became apparent that her story was not in alignment with her desire.
She felt hemmed in and limited by what she thought she was supposed to do. This story took the joy out of everything.
It also took her out of alignment with her vision of how she wanted her business to be and she was not making the money that she desired.
Are you wondering what we did about it?
We ditched her old story about what she had to do in order to be successful and wrote a new one. In this superstar’s new story, her success easily grew out of her enjoyment of her work and it was fun and easy. We identified the different components of her business that felt good to her and were already working. I had her identify the things she really enjoyed doing and wanted to do more of. We focused on the fun and what was already bringing results.
We also identified the parts of her business that felt forced and were not working. If we could not find a way to make them fun we ditched them or found someone else to take care of it. When we were done she was already seeing things take off.
The biggest improvement was that she was enjoying it again! Things were opening up for her and she felt good! This new story was really working.
I am curious to know if any of you have places in your life or your business where you are feeling bogged down and are not getting the results that you want.
Do you know what your story is around it?
Its All About the Money
Posted by: | CommentsEpisode 4 Defy the Box Radio
Money…Money..Money. Why do some people struggle with money and some people do not? How can you have a better relationship with money ? How can you attract more of it into your life? During this call we will look at money as an energy…your stories about money that prevent you from having any…and ways you can increase your abundance and prosperity.
Defy the Box needs a Logo…
Posted by: | CommentsCan You Create A Bad-Ass logo for Defy the Box .com ?
The winner gets $150 plus tons of free exposure.
Hey there you fine bunch of freaky creative individuals!
My name is Leah Shapiro and I am the founder of DefytheBox.com. Over the past year my website and vision have grown to the point where it is ready to have a kick-ass logo to represent it. My plan is to create a Defy the Box movement and build an empire from it.
I want a cool, powerful, sassy, unique image to represent my vision. What I hope is that you – or one of your equally out-there friends – will design it for me.
What I’m looking for is a fun, freaky, hot, edgy, hip perspective. (Think alternative-minded, Burning Man, firespinning, hooping, Anime, sexy, Steam Punk, tattooed, ex-raver types with a splash of yoga and spirituality thrown in.)
So what I want to know is just 2 things:
Do YOU hold that perspective?
Can you create a logo for Defy the Box that embodies the energy of someone who has thrown traditional ideas out the window and refused to be crammed into a box by society ?
If you are interested in getting in on this contest, go here to learn more and sign up:
http://www.bostonwisdomcoach.com/events/win-150-designing-a-kick-ass-logo-for-defy-the-box/
How to Defy the Box: Step 2. Question Everything
Posted by: | CommentsWhen talking about the “Box “, I am referring to all the stories, thoughts and ideas that you hold about how the world works and who you are. Somewhere along the line you “agreed” that these stories, thoughts and ideas were true and you set out to live your life by them.
What makes them true?
You believe them.
Are they really true?
Not necessarily, but your believing that they are true gives them lots of power over you.
This is why a vital step in breaking free from the box is to begin questioning all your beliefs and stories about how the world works and who you are supposed to be. Most of these stories and beliefs that you agreed to are based on assumptions, your taking things personally, or you heard something over and over from someone else and you just took it to be true. You never gave yourself the opportunity to determine if this “agreement” actually worked for you. This is why many people are struggling to live a life that does not feel good to them.
Here is a general guideline that you can follow: If something in your life does not feel good, take some time to consider why you are doing what you are doing.
Ask yourself these questions:
Why do I need to do this?
What is really happening here?
Is it something I am supposed to do?
Am I attempting to be someone I think I am supposed to be?
Who decided that this was the thing for me?
Is it working for me? If not, what would?
What do I want to experience?
What would feel good to me?
This line of self-inquiry will help you get in touch with what it is that YOU want in life and will allow you to be conscious of what your stories are. Once you begin to identify what your stories and beliefs are, you are in a position to re-write them to support the life you want to live.
