Archive for pre-packaged beliefs

Apr
16

What the Hell is The “Box”?

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Defy the Box??? I don’t even know what the Box is.

Let’s start at the beginning.

“What exactly is this Box that you are talking about?”

We all live in a box. This box is made up of your thoughts and beliefs about how the world works and what is possible. These thoughts and beliefs are the lens that you perceive your experiences through. It becomes the container that you live your life from.

The question is: Is it a box of your own design?

For many people, the box is designed by someone else. It is made from ideas and beliefs handed down to us by our families, culture and society. It is made of the fear your parents carried about not having enough money and that thing your grandmother always said about being a good girl or boy. The box is created by the images we see on TV and in the media telling us how we should “dress for success” or what we need to be one of the “cool kids”.

What is the one thing that all these thoughts and beliefs have in common?

They are unexamined by you.

At some point you began to believe that they were true, or that it is just the way the world works. This is an unconscious process. The end result is that you end up living in a box created by someone else.

How does yours fit?

Are you comfortable in it?

Do you have enough breathing room?

Is there room for you to expand?

How might you go about redesigning it to fit you perfectly?

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Defy the Box radio kicked off Tuesday night with a bang! Boy was it fun. We had 30 people logged into the call/show.It was fun to interact with everyone and answer the questions as they came rolling in. Lots of people shared and added to the conversation. It was wonderful to have Pappillon along for the ride as co-host.

Listen in and tell me what you think!

( the next Episode is April 28th at 9 PM EST… Come join in!)

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Apr
08

Breaking Free On Career Momentum Radio

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I did this cool radio interview this evening. I love doing things like this.

Listen here: Breaking free on Career Momentum Radio


How to Avoid the Trap of the “Pre-Packaged Life”

Does this sound like you?

Works leaves you drained, demoralized and exhausted from hiding who you really are. As a result, you feel too exhausted to spend time on what really matters to you so you numb out most nights with TV, drinks, or whatever else that distracts you from thinking about the daily stuff that feels yucky. You don’t have to live this way.

Join me and my guest, Leah Shapiro (www.defythebox.com) and discover a bold, new way of living that gives you freedom, authenticity and great money. We’ll be on Career Momentum Radio Wed, 8 April, from 6:30 – 7 PM (ET), 3:30 PM (PT). Don’t miss this interesting and valuable discussion! For more information, see
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Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, and miserable, and you just can’t see anyway out of it?

This is the problem that has brought many of my clients to me. They are feeling stuck in an uncomfortable situation and they just can’t see their way out. They want help escaping the rut and creating a life that feels good to them. The first place we start is by looking for the pre-packaged beliefs that are keeping them stuck.

What’s a Pre-Packaged Belief?

A pre-packaged belief is a story that you tell yourself about how the word works, or what is possible. These stories might be handed down to you by your family, or the people around you, or even the media. It is usually something you have heard over and over and you believe it to be true. The thing is, these stories are not necessarily true…especially for you.

Trying to live by these pre-package beliefs causes discomfort, is extremely challenging, and ultimately it doesn’t  work for you. The end result is that you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can’t make it work, and you feel trapped in a situation that is totally not working for you.

Here’s and Example

I used to work with sincere, intelligent, magical guy who had just turned 30. He came to me because he was struggling in his job as a warehouse manager. He was stressed out and overwhelmed most of the time. He wanted help finding a way to make it bearable.

We soon uncovered the issue. He was really a musician at heart. Playing music put him into the bliss zone and made him come alive. He went to The Berkley School of  Music and even toured with a band. But he left the music life because he wanted to get serious and settle down. It was interesting to discover that  he had bought into the story that you could not make enough money to survive as a musician!

His father had drilled it into his head that he needed a secure job with a steady income in order to get ahead and survive. So, that is what he did. He left making music for his spare time, and got a decent paying, secure job.

The problem with this is that his “secure job” left him feeling depleted and depressed and he did not have the energy to make music. He began to doubt himself and started to feel like there was something wrong with him for not being happy and satisfied in his good, secure job as a warehouse manager.

Let’s Switch this Story Around!

I asked him to re-write his story about making money as a musician.

What if you could make enough money to THRIVE  as a musician? What would that look like?

As he began to explore what this might look like, he began to become aware of a number of different possibilities around how this might work. I gave him some homework that allowed him to connect with this energy on a deeper level, and I taught him some tricks to use to help him stay connected to his new story of being a successful musician.

Next thing you know he had a plan. He decided to move to Atlanta and tap into the music scene there. I just heard from him the other day. After being in Atlanta for 4 months, he has lined up enough work as a professional musician to pay the bills and then some. He is living his dream and making money too. He has tapped into his ever abundant flow and life feels great!

I can help you tap into your ever abundant flow too! Check out my services page to see how we can work together to do this.

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Feb
10

Why Not Go Straight To Happy?

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What does the word career mean to you?

How about Life’s work?

Some people hold the belief that their career should be their life’s work. Built into this is the pre-packaged belief  that you choose a career and expect to live happily ever after within one topic forever more.

Sounds kind of limiting. If I think back, my interests have grown, shifted and expanded many times over. I believe this is our essential nature, to grow and expand our desires and interests. If this is true, it would make sense that many of us go through periods of finding ourselves in jobs that no longer serve us or not being able to focus on one topic of interest for very long.

This often leads to confusion and stress, and the people around you wondering when you are going to get it together,  make a decision, and settle down. That is what you are SUPPOSED to do right?

Well, what if you decided to make your career/life’s work the pursuit of happiness? If you are going to live forever more in one topic, then it might as well be something that feels good.

What if you made it your job to align yourself with activites and events that made you feel alive, tapped in and inspired ?

Some may ask " what about making money?"

Try this idea on for size: For many of you, money = happiness and freedom. So if you are doing your job and feeling good then the money will naturally show up. That is what Law of Attraction is all about. You get more of your primary thoughts and feelings.

I suggest making a "career" out of living a happy life  and not focusing on finding a job that will produce enough income so that you can then do the things that you think will make you happy. Why not go straight to happy?

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