Archive for pre-packaged life

Apr
08

Breaking Free On Career Momentum Radio

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I did this cool radio interview this evening. I love doing things like this.

Listen here: Breaking free on Career Momentum Radio


How to Avoid the Trap of the “Pre-Packaged Life”

Does this sound like you?

Works leaves you drained, demoralized and exhausted from hiding who you really are. As a result, you feel too exhausted to spend time on what really matters to you so you numb out most nights with TV, drinks, or whatever else that distracts you from thinking about the daily stuff that feels yucky. You don’t have to live this way.

Join me and my guest, Leah Shapiro (www.defythebox.com) and discover a bold, new way of living that gives you freedom, authenticity and great money. We’ll be on Career Momentum Radio Wed, 8 April, from 6:30 – 7 PM (ET), 3:30 PM (PT). Don’t miss this interesting and valuable discussion! For more information, see
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Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, and miserable, and you just can’t see anyway out of it?

This is the problem that has brought many of my clients to me. They are feeling stuck in an uncomfortable situation and they just can’t see their way out. They want help escaping the rut and creating a life that feels good to them. The first place we start is by looking for the pre-packaged beliefs that are keeping them stuck.

What’s a Pre-Packaged Belief?

A pre-packaged belief is a story that you tell yourself about how the word works, or what is possible. These stories might be handed down to you by your family, or the people around you, or even the media. It is usually something you have heard over and over and you believe it to be true. The thing is, these stories are not necessarily true…especially for you.

Trying to live by these pre-package beliefs causes discomfort, is extremely challenging, and ultimately it doesn’t  work for you. The end result is that you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can’t make it work, and you feel trapped in a situation that is totally not working for you.

Here’s and Example

I used to work with sincere, intelligent, magical guy who had just turned 30. He came to me because he was struggling in his job as a warehouse manager. He was stressed out and overwhelmed most of the time. He wanted help finding a way to make it bearable.

We soon uncovered the issue. He was really a musician at heart. Playing music put him into the bliss zone and made him come alive. He went to The Berkley School of  Music and even toured with a band. But he left the music life because he wanted to get serious and settle down. It was interesting to discover that  he had bought into the story that you could not make enough money to survive as a musician!

His father had drilled it into his head that he needed a secure job with a steady income in order to get ahead and survive. So, that is what he did. He left making music for his spare time, and got a decent paying, secure job.

The problem with this is that his “secure job” left him feeling depleted and depressed and he did not have the energy to make music. He began to doubt himself and started to feel like there was something wrong with him for not being happy and satisfied in his good, secure job as a warehouse manager.

Let’s Switch this Story Around!

I asked him to re-write his story about making money as a musician.

What if you could make enough money to THRIVE  as a musician? What would that look like?

As he began to explore what this might look like, he began to become aware of a number of different possibilities around how this might work. I gave him some homework that allowed him to connect with this energy on a deeper level, and I taught him some tricks to use to help him stay connected to his new story of being a successful musician.

Next thing you know he had a plan. He decided to move to Atlanta and tap into the music scene there. I just heard from him the other day. After being in Atlanta for 4 months, he has lined up enough work as a professional musician to pay the bills and then some. He is living his dream and making money too. He has tapped into his ever abundant flow and life feels great!

I can help you tap into your ever abundant flow too! Check out my services page to see how we can work together to do this.

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Oct
21

Facing The Unknown

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What an interesting place we are standing in right now. Everything seems a bit uncertain. The economy is out of whack, people are nervous about their future, and the upcoming election leaves many things up in the air. It is obvious that change is coming, hell, it is already here, but there is still a big sense of standing before the unknown.

I know that for many of you, this is a scary place. You have done everything you are supposed to do to avoid this place! This is not part of the plan! You feel powerless and unsure of what to do next.

From my perspective, this is part of the trap of living a pre-packaged life. When you buy into a story about how things are supposed to work, you are taken by surprise when it does not turn out as you expect. Many people are following “the plan” in order to avoid something just like this. They do not want to face an unknown future.

I will let you in on a secret: The future is always unknown and there will always be change. The trick is to learn how to roll with whatever is happening.

The first step to doing this is to release the idea that things are “supposed to” work a certain way and learn to be present with what is without judging it good or bad. When you are judging a situation, you are not really accepting it for what it is, especially if you are judging something as being bad. It creates resistance to what is. What you resist persists.

Take action in the moment if something does not feel good to you. Something only becomes a problem if you do not respond to it in the moment that you feel the initial discomfort. Ask yourself: “What would feel better to me in this moment”. Take the action that brings you closer to that better feeling place. It is all about being tuned into your preferences
The finale step to rolling with the unknown is to know that the Universe is a benevolent place, and that it is conspiring with you to bring you the experiences that you desire. Why not try this belief on for size for a while and see what happens?
As always, if you find it difficult to intergrate these ideas into your life, give me a call and we can talk about how I might help you

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Aug
28

Walking Out

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A few months ago, I spent the day at a Woman’s Leadership conference sponsored by a wonderful organization called Berkana. One topic of discussion was the concept of “Walk Outs”. A “Walk Out” occurs when someone decides that they can no longer tolerate living a pre-packaged life from the ready made world. This person makes the choice to “walk out” of the school system, job, institution, or what ever it is they are no longer choosing and move on to some other situation that better serves them. In many situations these people are creating something new for themselves, something that represents who they are.

WOW!! This idea struck me as being at the core of the work that I do with people. Let’s face it; we do live in a ready made world. I am not just talking about food here! It seems that nearly everything is pre-packaged: the education system; the American Dream; health care; and financial institutions. Then there is the kind of work that you are supposed to do to make the money you need in order to live the way you are supposed to live. Marriage and relationships are supposed to look a certain way. You are supposed to look and act a specific way. There are all these ideas about who, what and how we are supposed to be in order to be successful and achieve all we are supposed to achieve.

What do you do when these pre-packaged ideas do not resonate with you? How about when you tried to live that life but it is no longer feeling good to you and you want MORE from your life? Now you want the freedom to be who you really are, to let your unique freakiness out, and to be prosperous while doing it!

One thing you might do is give me a call to talk about how I might help you create something new for yourself ! In my life I have “walked out” of many traditional pre-packaged roles and have been successful in creating a life that allows me to be to be my freaky self. I can help you do that too!

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