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Something interesting happened last week.

I noticed that I was I was trying too hard to “get it right” and I was feeling the pressure to “make something happen” in my business.

Do you ever feel that way?

I felt like part of this was the funky energy that has been swirling around in the Universe the past few weeks, but I also recognized that I was somehow out of alignment with what I wanted to create.

How did I know this?

Because shit kept showing up that was so not working for me and I was not getting the results that I was looking for.
Being the wise women that I am, I know that I somehow attracted these undesirable results, and it was my job to identify what was out of alignment and shift it.

And that is exactly what I did. In 3 days time I went from feeling pressured and having to make-something-happen, to feeling in the flow and kick-ass

Do you want to know how I did it?

I looked at what was showing up that did not work for me, identified how I was resonating with it, and I re-wrote my story to reflect what I wanted to be experiencing. Within three days everything had shifted and I was once again aligned with everything kick-ass in my life.

The magic of it all is that you can do this too when you feel like you are not getting the results that you are looking for.

Let me break it down for you.

First off, you need to take a step back and take a good look at what is going on.

Whatever you are experiencing is a direct manifestation of the energy that you are embodying. Do your best to get a clear perspective on what exactly is showing up that you are not wanting. This is valuable information and will give you insight into where you are not resonating with what you want and how you can shift it.

For example, one situation that kept showing up was that people said that they wanted to work with me, but they did not have any money.

I asked myself: “How am I resonating with this conversation?”

When I thought about it, I realized that I was holding onto a story that said money was tight and people did not have any to spend on creating their kick-ass dream life right now. I often talked about this “reality” with friends and colleges.
This story was totally out of alignment with what I wanted.  Believing this story made me feel like I had to work harder and figure out a way to overcome this obstacle. It made me play a much smaller game than I wanted to play. It did not feel good to me and I felt like I had to DO something to make something happen.

In my kick-ass dream life, I help people who are already committed to going after their kick-ass dream, and they want some help navigating the obstacles.  They are in-it-to-win-it and recognize the value of working with me and joyfully pay me for my services.

I needed to re-write my story and step back into the big game I wanted to play.

First , I consciously re-wrote my story to say:  Everyday there are thousands of people who are investing money in their kick-ass dream life. Right now, there are hundreds of people who are on the path to living their kick-ass dream life who eagerly await the opportunity to work with me and will joyfully pay me my full fee.

Then I set out to collect evidence that people were spending money on personal growth and happiness. It went something like this:

I frequently spend money on my own personal growth and happiness.
I often meet other women who invest in themselves.
Right now there are thousands of people who invest in themselves every day.
Matter of fact, right now there are many people who would welcome the opportunity to invest their money in my services. There is a history of people doing just that.
(Now I am feeling better! )

I decide to spend some the day looking for evidence of people spending money on their happiness and living their kick-ass dream life.

I noticed the women who spend money on Zumba classes, a fancy car, shopping for new cloths, and whatever else that I can find that supports the idea that people are spending money on their kick-ass dream lives.

Soon I could feel my energy shifting and I was back in the flow.

You know what?

It worked, the next conversation I had with someone resulted in them hiring me! There was no talk about lack of money. This person is an ideal client and the whole conversation was effortless.

Where are you feeling that you are not getting the results that you want and you have to really push to make things happen?

Try re-writing your story and see what happens!  Share your results down below in the comments.

If you find yourself having a hard time with this process and are ready to stop pushing so hard for the results that you desire, send me an email by clicking here, and apply for a Breakthrough Session. During this 30 minute session I will help you identify where you are getting hung up and create a clear strategy for being free of it.

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Aug
20

Your Story: Love It or Ditch It !

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One of my superstar clients came to me wanting support in building her business. She had reached a point where she felt bogged down and the joy was going out out of it for her. It was begining to feel a lot like WORK! Work she did not want to do. She found herself doing things she did not enjoy because she thought she “had to” do them.

Once we dug down into it, I uncovered a story that she was carrying that said in order to be successful in business, you had to be very serious and work hard. She had to MAKE everything happen and figure it all out. She was following a plan of action that did not feel very good to her.

Now, this superstar is a fun loving gal. Part of the reason she started her own business was so that she could enjoy herself and have the freedom to do what she wanted. As we explored the different stories she held about what success meant and looked like, and how you got there, it became apparent that her story was not in alignment with her desire.

She felt hemmed in and limited by what she thought she was supposed to do. This story took the joy out of everything.

It also took her out of alignment with her vision of how she wanted her business to be and she was not making the money that she desired.

Are you wondering what we did about it?

We ditched her old story about what she had to do in order to be successful and wrote a new one. In this superstar’s new story, her success easily grew out of her enjoyment of her work and it was fun and easy. We identified the different components of her business that felt good to her and were already working. I had her identify the things she really enjoyed doing and wanted to do more of. We focused on the fun and what was already bringing results.

We also identified the parts of her business that felt forced and were not working. If we could not find a way to make them fun we ditched them or found someone else to take care of it. When we were done she was already seeing things take off.

The biggest improvement was that she was enjoying it again! Things were opening up for her and she felt good! This new story was really working.

I am curious to know if any of you have places in your life or your business where you are feeling bogged down and are not getting the results that you want.

Do you know what your story is around it?

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Have you ever felt stuck in a rut, and miserable, and you just can’t see anyway out of it?

This is the problem that has brought many of my clients to me. They are feeling stuck in an uncomfortable situation and they just can’t see their way out. They want help escaping the rut and creating a life that feels good to them. The first place we start is by looking for the pre-packaged beliefs that are keeping them stuck.

What’s a Pre-Packaged Belief?

A pre-packaged belief is a story that you tell yourself about how the word works, or what is possible. These stories might be handed down to you by your family, or the people around you, or even the media. It is usually something you have heard over and over and you believe it to be true. The thing is, these stories are not necessarily true…especially for you.

Trying to live by these pre-package beliefs causes discomfort, is extremely challenging, and ultimately it doesn’t  work for you. The end result is that you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can’t make it work, and you feel trapped in a situation that is totally not working for you.

Here’s and Example

I used to work with sincere, intelligent, magical guy who had just turned 30. He came to me because he was struggling in his job as a warehouse manager. He was stressed out and overwhelmed most of the time. He wanted help finding a way to make it bearable.

We soon uncovered the issue. He was really a musician at heart. Playing music put him into the bliss zone and made him come alive. He went to The Berkley School of  Music and even toured with a band. But he left the music life because he wanted to get serious and settle down. It was interesting to discover that  he had bought into the story that you could not make enough money to survive as a musician!

His father had drilled it into his head that he needed a secure job with a steady income in order to get ahead and survive. So, that is what he did. He left making music for his spare time, and got a decent paying, secure job.

The problem with this is that his “secure job” left him feeling depleted and depressed and he did not have the energy to make music. He began to doubt himself and started to feel like there was something wrong with him for not being happy and satisfied in his good, secure job as a warehouse manager.

Let’s Switch this Story Around!

I asked him to re-write his story about making money as a musician.

What if you could make enough money to THRIVE  as a musician? What would that look like?

As he began to explore what this might look like, he began to become aware of a number of different possibilities around how this might work. I gave him some homework that allowed him to connect with this energy on a deeper level, and I taught him some tricks to use to help him stay connected to his new story of being a successful musician.

Next thing you know he had a plan. He decided to move to Atlanta and tap into the music scene there. I just heard from him the other day. After being in Atlanta for 4 months, he has lined up enough work as a professional musician to pay the bills and then some. He is living his dream and making money too. He has tapped into his ever abundant flow and life feels great!

I can help you tap into your ever abundant flow too! Check out my services page to see how we can work together to do this.

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Sep
09

Who Says ?!?

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Lately, I have been having conversations with people about the places that feel crappy in their lives.  It doesn’t matter what part of their life they are speaking about, the story is always the same-

This is what I have to put up with in order to have the: job, money,  family, relationship, or the lifestyle that I want.

My response to them is: “Who says?”

I want to know who made up this rule!

The one that says you “have to” put up with something in your life that feels bad on a regular basis in order to have what you desire.

It appears like lots of people have bought into this rule! I see people struggling with this on a daily basis. They dread going to work, or they are not getting the affection they desire from their relationship. They may feel stuck in something or uninspired by their life. They settle for a less than satisfying situation because they think that is the only option. Then they suffer through it.

I wonder when it became “OK” to feel like that? I have to imagine that on some level you feel that it  is OK for parts of your life to feel crappy if you resign yourself to staying in that place.

I was stuck in this trap too!

I had bought into the story that  certain things in life were supposed to feel bad especially work!  They don’t call it work for nothing right?

I thought I was supposed to make things happen by working long hard hours and always striving. You always took the highest paying job no matter if you liked it or not, because it was all about the money. It did not matter that I was exhausted, disconnected, uninspired, watching too much TV and needing to get “my party on” a few times a week.

I was stuck in a story that said this was just how life was.

I had to suffer, tune out, feel stuck, and be uninspired so that I could do the things I was supposed to do in order to have the things I wanted in life. It seemed to me that everyone around me was caught up in a similar situation.

Boy did it feel crappy!

Funny thing is, I was so caught up in this story that I did not really know the difference. I thought that was how life was supposed to be. Sometimes, I would suspect that there could be more to life. I would glimpse it every now and then in other peoples eye’s, but I could never figure out what it was exactly.

A New Perspective

Then I read a really cool book called the Four Agreements . It suggested to me that life was meant to feel good. I did not have to struggle in order to have what I wanted. I could make my own rules for how I lived my life.Opening up to this possibility shifted many things for me.

I made the choice to find a different work environment that felt better to me and I still made money. It was no longer OK to feel stuck. If it felt bad on a regular basis- something had to change. I had to change. I began working with a coach. I started to question my old story that said work was supposed to be hard and I had to suffer through in order to be successful.

Now my Reality is Different!

I no longer struggle against things that feel bad. I know that there is always a solution and it is possible to find a different way of approaching things. It does not mean I abandon something, but rather find a new way of approaching it that works for me.

If something is not feeling right, I determine what will make it feel better and I take steps to change it. I am back in a place of choice.

I make the rules for my life now. My number 1 rule is that I feel good in every aspect of my life.

What’s your number 1 rule going to be? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

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