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How to Create a Kick-Ass Life – Part 1
Posted by: | CommentsYou’ve declared that 2011 is going to be better than last year. It’s got to be, right?
Hell, maybe you’ve even gone as far as to say that this year is going to be the year you settle for nothing less than Kick-Ass! Woo-hoo!!!
The question is, just how are you going to go about making this year better than last year? What’s your plan for achieving kick-ass?
You have one, right?
If not, I’d love to offer up a few suggestions for how to go about doing it.
I’m doing this because I want to see you living a Kick-Ass Life. Mostly because I’m selfish, the more people living kick-ass lives, the more interesting, awesome, happy people there are for me to hang out and play with.
I mean seriously. People living kick-ass lives are fun and from my perspective- Fun is better!!
Assuming that you all want kick-ass lives, I’m going to share some things that will help you create one for yourself.
First and foremost, the proper mindset is essential!
The way you approach creating change is very important. Where you focus your attention, how you think about things and your level of commitment deeply influences your outcome.
If you’re like many people, you’re used to focusing on the things that aren’t working for you. You get caught up in your problems and you can’t see any solutions. You feel stuck and overwhelmed and nothing seems to change, or it gets worse! This is so frustrating, and you begin to doubt yourself and often times give up.
You’re approaching things from the wrong angle!
When you focus on all your problems and the things you don’t want, you get more of the same. When you learn how to shift your mindset, so that you are focusing your attention on all the things that you do want in your life, and the things that feel good to you, then you will get the results you are looking for.
Where you focus your attention matters! Luckily, this is something that you actually have control over. You get to choose what thoughts you pay attention to. It takes a bit of practice, but you’ll get the hang of it.
Anchor yourself into your desire to live a Kick-Ass Life.
This is important because eventually things are going to get difficult. If your not anchored into your desire it will be really easy to give up when the going gets rough. If you want to succeed at creating your Kick-Ass Life, you have to be committed and persistent in your efforts. One way you can do this by setting an intention and making your happiness a priority.
Do you want some help working on your mindset?
Sign up for the Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 group program. We will be covering mindset in depth in the first 4 week module of the program. I also provide you with lots of cool tools that help you anchor into your commitment and amplify the energy of feeling good so your entire process feels so much easier. You can learn more here: http://www.defythebox.com/create-your-kick-ass-life-in-2011/
In my next post I am going to talk about how getting up close and personal with yourself makes creating your Kick-Ass Life so much easier.
The Price of Impatience
Posted by: | CommentsI thought it was a good idea at the time.
I was so excited to make things happen and create some big changes so that I could make a giant leap forward and step more firmly into my kick-ass dream life.
What I didn’t consider was that the three programs I signed up for to help me do just that were all going on at the same time.
I realized that I had made myself crazy busy and I started to spiral into overwhelm.
I have put myself into full time SUMMER SCHOOL!
What was I thinking?
I can tell you what I was thinking: I want my kick-ass dream life to show up RIGHT NOW !
I was getting impatient and feeling like things were not happening fast enough.
How many of you can relate to that ?
So, I decided to take some action that I felt would rocket me forward.
The problem is that I didn’t take the time to create a structure to support me in doing this. I did not step back and imagine what it would be like to be in these programs, and the time commitment and the workload. I didn’t focus on the outcome that I was looking for and create space for it to happen. I didn’t clear away the things in my life that were not in alignment with my stepping up in this big new way.
I didn’t set myself up for success in anyway and now I am paying the price.
Overwhelm!
Funny, Abraham-Hicks sent out a quote the other day that fits perfectly.
“Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You’re just not ready to receive it right now.”
These words ring true for me. I was not ready to receive what I had asked for.
I ask myself: “What needs to be released, or brought in to support you in stepping into your dream?”
One thing that needs to be brought in is a newly defined commitment to do this work, and to make it my #1 priority.
The next thing I did was re-evaluate how I was spending my time and decide if there were any things that are not serving me. There are a few groups and projects that I have decided to let go of because they are not really going anywhere. I also had to redefine my relationship with Plants vs. Zombies, (Sorry guys…I will only be coming around every now and then.) and my TV.
I did make the commitment to keep some space for fun, and not to burn myself out working 12 hour days. That just does not feel good and is so NOT part of my kick-ass dream life!
So we will see what happens.
The Overwhelm has left the building and I am beginning to feel the juicy goodness of everything expanding around me.
Oh yeah… that feels nice!
