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The world needs you to be your freaky self!
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you feel about flying your freak flag high and proud and sharing your juicy goodness with us?
Being self-expressed in this way totally rocks and it’s the fastest way to living a Kick-Ass Life!
You DO know that you have something special to share that is unique to you, right?
There many be thousands of coaches, health counselors and healers out there, but you have your own special twist to put on it that makes what you have to offer incredibly valuable to the right people. The thing is – they need to be able to find you.
Right now there are people who are looking for what you have to offer. They are waiting for you to unfurl your freak flag so they can find you.
When you fly your freak flag and let people see the real you, you stand out and shine. People remember you and you’ll naturally attract more of the people who want what you have going on. Besides, it feels kick-ass to be doing your thing -your way- and working with the people that you want to work with.
Trust me—the world wants what you have to offer! We are dying for you to fly your freak flag and share your juicy goodness with us. But, in order to do this, you need to know who you are and what your freak flag looks like!
Have you’ve lost sight of this?
Did you forgot what makes you so freaking awesome while you were out there trying to cram yourself into a pre-packaged life? No need to beat yourself up over it, we can fix it.
Tuning In
Everything you need to know about flying your freak flag and what you need to stand out and shine is right there inside of you. All you need to do is learn how to tune into it so you can bring it out for the world to see.
Tuning in takes a bit of focused effort, self-awareness, and some space to try things on for size to see what works. You’ll want to get down and dirty with your bad-ass self so you can reconnect with who you are at your core essence.
You’ll need some tools to help you identify what sets you apart and makes you special and unique and what you need to make your life & biz totally Kick-Ass!
You do know that how you show up in your life is the same way you show up in your biz…right?
I have just the thing if you want some help with this- The Discovering Kick-Ass Guide!
This guidebook is going to help you get crystal clear about what YOUR freak flag looks like and what you need to live a kick-ass life.
The Discovering Kick-Ass Guide will help you to…
- reconnect with who you are
- uncover your unique gifts and talents
- clearly layout what your next moves will be
- start doing more of the things you want to do
- embrace the things that set you apart and make you shine
A little effort goes a long way when doing this work! As you begin to discover what your special brand of juicy goodness looks like, you will naturally begin to attract more opportunities to share it with the world. Your freak flag will become a bright beacon that will light the way for your right people to find you so they can snatch up what you have to offer.
Your life will get Kick-Ass very fast!
You can get your copy of the Discovering Kick-Ass Guidebook here –http://defythebox.com/kickassguide/
Unfurl that freak flag!!!
To Offend or Not Offend, That is the Question
Posted by: | CommentsThe past few days I have been caught up in an ongoing mental swirl around whether or not I should tone down my message and the way I deliver it.
Why was I considering this?
In order to appeal to a broader audience.
In order to be more accessible.
In order not to offend people.
I was offered the opportunity to host Defy the Box Radio to a much larger audience than I am now. A well established website for women contacted me and said they were interested in my edgy perspective and the Defy the Box message was appealing to them. When I checked out the site and the other shows they offered I liked what I saw, but thought that they might be a bit too ‘vanillia’ for me. I suggested that they check out the past episodes of my show to see if they thought I would be a good fit. When we spoke again I was told that they liked my message and would love to have me, but I would need to tone things down a bit so that I do not offend anyone on the site.
MMMMM…….tone down my message, huh?
My first reaction was NO WAY, but then I started questioning myself.
I do want to expand my audience, and I am doing my best to expand my business.
Am I missing out on an opportunity by saying no?? Am I being a responsible business owner ?
Just thinking about toning myself down makes me feel restricted and unsettled. It makes me doubt myself.
This is not the way I want to feel.
When it comes right down to it, I do not like the idea of restricting myself in any way. The idea of toning down my message and my delivery of it is not appealing at all.
What I am really being asked to do is to adjust my behavior so that I ‘fit in’ to a particular box.
And I have to acknowledge that I was almost buying into the story that says you need to tone yourself down in order to appeal to a large audience, and offending people is bad. I was starting to flip – flop and was beginning to think that maybe it was a good idea to tone things down a bit so that I would be more accessible to the mainstream.
Then I called my friend Kelle and had a great conversation about speaking in your authentic voice, and who I really wanted to reach out to, and was I actually going to miss out on an opportunity here? Kelle is really good at helping me stay on track, and she reminded me that if you are not offending someone…you are not doing your job right. Thanks Kelle!
I mean, look at Howard Stern. Many people find him obnoxious and offensive but they still listen. He has a strong voice and perspective and is not afraid to stand out. His audience loves him.
When it comes right down to it, my ‘toning it down’ would not be in alignment with the message of Defy the Box.
What kind of example would I be if I was not letting my freak flag fly high and proud?
The reality is that I am a rabble rouser.
I am intentionally trying to stir things up, and make people question the ideas and beliefs that they have been living by.
That can be very offensive to many people.
It makes them uncomfortable. In response to the discomfort, they make me, or my message, wrong rather than looking inside themselves to discover the real reason they are feeling uncomfortable. ( It’s not really about me at all.)
It’s OK…I do my best not to take this personally. 
So…do I tone things down???
NO WAY!
Wheww….that feels so much better.
