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What do You do When You Are Not a Planner or Goal Setter?
Posted by: | CommentsToday I had an awesome Kick-Ass Consultation with a really cool woman who told me that she is not big on liner thinking…and not much of a goal setter, so she is at a loss around how to change her life.
Isn’t that how you do it?
You set some goals and lay out a step by step plan for achieving those goals?
Boy…did this get me fired up!!!
Yes…that is exactly how SOME people go about successfully changing their lives.
But what about the rest of us who that does not work for?
I know that I’m not the only one who never had much luck with setting goals and laying out a structured plan to reach them.
To me it always seemed so limiting…and difficult to figure out ahead of time what steps that I needed to take in order to make something happen. That is not to say that I have never had success setting goals and laying out a plan, but the reality is that everything I ended up getting in that way, always turned out to be something that I did not really want in the long run. I was so focused on following the plan, I ignored all the signs that what I was pursuing really was not for me.
Can you relate to that too?
So what do you do????
I prefer a more organic method of manifestation that allows you to be in the flow and effortlessly creating your dream life.
It’s all about creating and connecting to a vision for your life, and then allowing it to naturally unfold before you. The results that I’ve had with this have been amazing. I’ve used this method to create my business, find my awesome home, my community, my truly delicious relationship and to have a totally kick-ass birthday celebration (You can read about that here).
The cool part about this approach is that it leaves plenty of space for fine tuning your vision. As things are unfolding, it is really easy to determine if it is what you want or not, and you can make any adjustments necessary. You also remove the stress and frustration that is often felt around trying to achieve your goals in a specific way. It opens things up and invites in more flow to your process.
The more I do this, the better I get at it. It becomes effortless. I learned some simple practices that help speed up the process. Now things show up for me as soon as I allow them to. I see the same results with my clients.
I can teach you how to do this too if you want me to.
Sign up for your very own Kick-Ass Consultation and we can discuss how we can work together to create your Kick-Ass Dream life too.
Rules….Do You Need Them?
Posted by: | CommentsRules……just hearing that word makes me bristle a bit.
It brings up feeling of being controlled, and constrained.
Rules often make me want to rebel!
Growing up I could not stand someone else telling me what I
could and could not do.
Why do I need to go to bed at 8 if I am not tired?
Why can’t I eat a cupcake before dinner?
Why do I have to go to school when I don’t want to?
Rules seemed to be a big infringement on my personal freedom.
After all, I know what is best for me and I wanted the freedom to
choose for myself.
Are rules necessary?
You bet.
Rules are necessary to set up structure.
Rules keep things in order, especially when there are lots of
different kinds of people living in the same space.
It would be chaos without them. Each society creates its own
rules around how to live and interact with others.
We create laws in order to keep everyone safe. We all“AGREE”to them
for the most part and abiding by them is part of choosing to live in
the good ol’ USA. (Although, I do feel that some laws are crap and have
nothing to do with our safety but that is another topic .)
And then we have the unwritten rules that govern how we each are
supposed to behave and interact with each other.
These are the tricky one’s.
I am not sure who agreed to them and when they were discussed.
No one asked me, but I on some level, I am expected to abide by them.
Do we need these “unwritten and implied” rules?
I feel that these rules are meant to be questioned so that we
each can determine which ones work for us and which ones don’t.
An example of this might be “ Be polite to strangers”.
In lots of cases this is a good rule to live by, but what if a stranger
gropes on the subway? Are you supposed to be polite then?
Then you can have your own rules about how YOU live your life.
These rules are all about what you allow and the structure that you
have set up for yourself in order to ensure that you are happy,
nurtured, and successful. These are the rules that I am most curious about.
Do you think you need them?
